Not yet, I know it will happen sometime. I am sorry for that change I know others here have experienced that

Monica, Yes, I can relate to you. My kids' dad & I were together for 12 years, married almost 9 years. To this day, he still has NOTHING nice to say to me. They are NOT happy with themselves, therefore, they can't be happy with anything else either.

I just found out a week ago that my stbx is with the crazy neighbor right behind my house who she also goes to our church. She used to work at our church but because she is with a married man she got fired. My stbx was kind to me until he started with her. Maybe that is the reason that he left me. Now he is completely meant to me and won't even consider his daughter's feelings. He has brought her around them and they are very hurt. Maybe the other woman is influencing him to act this way. Mine won't help me around the house anymore and is changing his mind on the divorce. I have decided to not even talk with him at all. I will only dicuss our children because that is what is best for my girls. Maybe try not talking to him that way he can't hurt you more than he already has.

Just an idea, but: The g/f may be whispering in his ear.

I think that it is guilt. Sometimes when people don't know how to deal with it, it can come out in weird ways. My W has said that she sometimes wishes that I hate her because it would make it easier for her to do what she wants to do.

Try not to let it get to you. You do have friend and family and that can help.

Wishing you the best.

Yes..my ex does the same thing. Especially when the OW is around. When it is just him he seems to be able to at least manage a civil tone.

Now that I see them together at kid events..he looks like a puppy to me. He won't say a word to me or even look in my direction. This while the OW is stuck to him like glue.

I figure that since they are BOTH cheaters..they realize that they have to hang on tight to each other..never know when one of those two might "slip".

What a wonderful way to begin a relationship..

Oh, I am so afraid this is going to happen to me. We're 3 months into the separation and pretty friendly but I know the minute he starts dating someone all bets are off.

I think it's a combination of things other posters have suggested. Probably guilt and probably he is either trying to prove to the new g/f that he doesn't have feelings for you or she's giving him a hard time about you. Also, if he gave her details about your breakup, she's probably recast you in a bad light (like, 'Oh you poor thing, your wife was so mean to you, blah, blah') and he's picking up on it and transferring those feelings to you.

He may not even be fully aware he's doing it. Why don't you point it out to him and tell him despite the new g/f you have kids and need to be civil to each other. Tell him you two will have to have a relationship forever because of the kids and the new g/f could be temporary. See what his response is. Maybe it will knock some sense into him.

He somehow thinks he has to act that way because she will be jealous. The new woman is always going to be insecure because you have a lifelong tie to him, your kids.

he probobly had thoughts of coming back to you and wanted to keep that door open until the new G/F and yes she probobly wispered in his ear too

I have been wondering how does it go from one day we are making plans for the future, going on about the daily bsuiness of chores and errands and running our business, taking care of our pets, looking forward to vacations we have planned -- to he just hates me and can't talk to me at all cuz when he does he is so mean and I react. It is a dramatic shift, I just don't get it. I always figured if it happened, which I didn't think it would, that it would be quietly announced and then there would be some planning and the details would be worked out -- instead I get the outting of the affair he is having with my trusted employee/friend who is married, followed by 24 hours of guilt on his part, followed by him saying I "ruined his life" when I fired OW adn then yelling adn threatening and throwing things at me! I know it doesn't help to try to figure it out, but I do like to think that he is guilty and uncomfortable and hopefully regrets what he has done and how many people he has hurt. How else can you explian cooking me a nice BBQ dinner one night, with margaritas freshly made, talking about our vacation to Cabo in two weeks, and then the next night he is threatening to hit me and tells me he has never loved me ever?