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Connection? Moving on and getting mean?

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I'm just curious... my stbx and I have known each other since childhood. We were best friends as kids. We were together 13 years and have 2 kids. When he left 6 months ago, it seemed like we were both sorry for it to end and we were planning on being very kind and friendly.
For a while that seemed to be true.
Now he has a GF and he's acting like a jerk. He looks and acts like he hates me. I don't get it. This is more painful than when he left. What's the deal? Why is this new relationship making it so that he can't still show me some respect and kindness?
Has anyone else had this happen? It's such a dramatic shift -- I'm totally stunned.
For a while that seemed to be true.
Now he has a GF and he's acting like a jerk. He looks and acts like he hates me. I don't get it. This is more painful than when he left. What's the deal? Why is this new relationship making it so that he can't still show me some respect and kindness?
Has anyone else had this happen? It's such a dramatic shift -- I'm totally stunned.
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Now that I see them together at kid events..he looks like a puppy to me. He won't say a word to me or even look in my direction. This while the OW is stuck to him like glue.
I figure that since they are BOTH cheaters..they realize that they have to hang on tight to each other..never know when one of those two might "slip".
What a wonderful way to begin a relationship..
I think it's a combination of things other posters have suggested. Probably guilt and probably he is either trying to prove to the new g/f that he doesn't have feelings for you or she's giving him a hard time about you. Also, if he gave her details about your breakup, she's probably recast you in a bad light (like, 'Oh you poor thing, your wife was so mean to you, blah, blah') and he's picking up on it and transferring those feelings to you.
He may not even be fully aware he's doing it. Why don't you point it out to him and tell him despite the new g/f you have kids and need to be civil to each other. Tell him you two will have to have a relationship forever because of the kids and the new g/f could be temporary. See what his response is. Maybe it will knock some sense into him.