I have been going between this blog and the codependency one, trying to make some sense of my own situation. I have been married for 16 years. My husband for about the past year has been saying he doesn't love me anymore and wants a divorce, however he is still here. He says its mainly the financial part, he works, I am a stay at home mom, and would have to find a job, which is hard these days. Even though we have to small children, he says he would still get divorced, and we should do our best to make sure we can co-parent together. Here's the issue.. the won't leave, says he doesn't love me, says he wants a divorce and doesn't want to waste the rest of his life living like this, (brother and sister) he shows no affection. I can't hold his hand, kiss him, give him a compliment or anything to be loving (I guess he wants me to be like him in the marriage, but I am not like that). The strange part is, he has agreed to go to marriage counseling, we have had 2 sessions so far. When I ask him why he is going, he says, he is not sure and that he is hoping the counselor can give him a reason not to get divorced, show him that the relationship can be improved. I am very confused and frustrated. He is a good husband, father and a good person overall, so I would hate to have this marriage fail, if I am wanting too much from him, something that he can't give, affection, kindness and understanding as a husband. I am not sure if I should just throw in the towel and divorce despite the fact that he is a good person, or try to live with what I've got, even though he does not/will not meet any of my needs as a husband. Where do you draw the line in you relationship and realize this is what it is, take it or leave it? Has anyone else been in this situation. Has marriage counseling worked for anyone. Thanks for any advice.
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