i can somewhat understand the moving out to get his head straight if he is having such problems. i can believe he says your pretty and wants to tell you he loves you. RED FLAG!!!!!!
i want my cake and eat it too. i'm sorry. he isn't giving you mixed signals, he is selfish and self centered and doing exactly what he wants. your a beautiful woman and do not deserve that.

Sounds like he wants you to keep your guard down so he can stomp all over you. He may be buying himself time so he can get out without a huge fight.
Mine told me that to keep me as a back up in case the other woman didn't work out, that way when he got his head out his butt we could reconcile... we did and this time, I'm the one initiating the divorce.

If he is sincere, you need to get help for yourself so you can be a stronger person and perhaps, you won't want him when he "finds his head".

It has been my exspereance that hope is the last thing that we finally let go of. 2nd divorce here, just like the first, never wanted to let go of the hope. life is so not fair but the fact remains that we can not sit by and hope and wait on someone else to make us happy and while. Some people will waist a life time on hope. It is a hard thing to let go of.

I really do want to hold on to hope. I am completly head over heels in love with him. I am in therapy though so that should help.

Tammi as long as you hold on to that hope then your happyness is in his hands. Is that what you want? How happy is he making you now? How happy will he make you next week? Accept it. Let go of the hope. If it is meant to be then he will come back, in the mean time how much time will you spend on waiting for him to make you happy again?

I don't want to leave that in his hands. I am hoping when he moves out it will be easier for me. Right now it is a constant reminder.

Oh Tammi, I was in your shoes. I held out hope for the longest time - years - while I got stomped on. What he's really saying to you is "I don't want to be married. I want to be free to do whatever I want with whomever I want. But, I think you're pretty neat too, and would like you to stick around as my back-up girl."

Not trying to be harsh, but that's really what it boils down to, right? You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who is so in love with YOU that they wouldn't ever want anyone else. You deserve someone to cherish you and treat you with respect and decency. Concentrate on loving yourself, and let him go - he's not worth it.

There is that word hope again. It is a long hard painful road ahead, sorry to say that, it wont get any easyer when he leaves. I dont mean to sound so hard, I truly feel your pain.(((((HUGS))))

I am afraid there is no one out there like that, I think that is my biggest fear.

Tammi go ahead and face the fers. Dont worry if there is someone else out there right now. Worry about taking controll of your life and haapyness. That is your # 1 PRIORITY.

All of this is easyer said than done, but that is why we are here, to support and give opinions.