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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
But anyhoo - it doesn't help. You really don't feel any better for it, they'll either deny it to the ends of the earth or go off and attack you (either verbally or physically). So it's really a no win situation.
I know how difficult it is to try and swallow our pride and move on, but that's really what you need to do. Good luck Kelly. {{{ hugs }}} for you
Back to your question, IT will help you feel better ONLY if you can calmly and rationally speak to her, if you end up and a screaming horrible fight, she will be "convinced" that you are the horrible witch your husband told her you were. It's kind of bittersweet because she may make you feel worse. If she is married, it will create hearbreak to her children who don't deserve it.
Good luck
I confronted her many times, by phone, in person, text msg. We knew each other prior to her getting inbetween us.
I contacted her husband and that stopped her for a while.
The final straw was when my ex confessed his love for her and I along with everyone else knew she didn't feel the same, she had no intentions of ever leaving her family, she just used men to get things.
She has since moved on to another state, another city new men, new families to ruin, this new city is a college town also, plenty of males to keep her occupied.
She simply needed to assert her existence and say, I am not stupid, I know what is going on.
I think you should do what you need to do for yourself, and take care not to confuse cowardice with the high road.
After a few minutes I called him back and gave him everything i have been wanting to say to that snake son-of-a-bitch.
Yea it did make me feel better and I was able to release alot of the RAGE that was in me. better than living the rest of my life knowing the idiot doesn't know how i truly feel.
Btw i didn't give him a chance to ask whatever "questions' he had and i am not the least bit curious of what that pond scum had to say.
This is what I mean. If it makes you feel better: DO IT!
It turned out that he was seeing a woman that was on a social committee with him at work. When I originaly asked my husband who he was leaving me for, he would not tell me. I kept asking and said that he owed at least that much to me and the children to know who has destroyed our lives along with him. He finally told me on the condition that i do not call her or cause HER any problems. I promised. My husband knew that I would never break a promise so he told me who she was.
I ran into that wonderful "lady" at a company function (while my husband and I were trying to reconcile). She was bold enough to come up to me and say hello, fully well knowing I knew who she was. She was far from a lady. Well, the reconciliation didn't work and he was still seeing her on the side. He announced he was leaving for good to be with her--she and him were very much in love. When my husband left and told her they could finally be together she panicked! Turns out this woman was also married and she had no intention on leaving her husband--he gave her a very nice life style that she wasn't ready to leave...I saw this woman later and she begged me NOT to tell her husband what went on between her and my husband. I thought she sure had alot of nerve considering how her (and my husband's actions) changed my family's life forever--but you know what? I just looked at her and said, "Unlike you, I keep my word to my husband and although I feel sorry for yours that he is involved with you, I will not say anything to him--he will find out all on his own in due time--and the loss will be all yours, not his...You re the lowest form of a human being and you will feel the pain someday that you have inflicted on my family...what goes around comes around.
I actually felt good that I never said anything. I felt like a lady when all was said and done. She was nothing a worthless human being that didn't deserve any more of my attention.
From what I've heard, my husband over the years has regretted his actions, but it is too late, there could never be any trust between us. My biggest regret is that my children although now grown were hurt deeply by this.
It was very upsetting & empowering. I was proud of myself because I did not cuss or say hateful thing, just gave her the truth right between the eyes.
But it did not accomplish a thing. He is still on the way out.
Think long & hard, then do what you feel like you need to do FOR YOURSELF! I personally needed this.