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Commitment phobe in other aspects?

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For those of you who had a spouse that cheated or emotionally walked out; did you notice whether they lacked commitment in other areas of their life? Did they finish projects or were they always moving on to the next one? Did they work hard or did they always look for the easiest path? Did they get irritated when they learned that it would take more work than they expected? "What do you mean I have to work at something? You mean it won't just be handed to me?"

My STBX fit that to a T. He still is like that only now I get to see it from a distance. He seems to not believe in working hard and why should anyone expect him to work at anything. If it becomes hard, he will drop it as fast as he started it. Procrastination can also be his motto.

I was just wondering if anyone else experienced this.

--Sara
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I would say my x always chose the path of least resistance.
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Yep,mine did too. I (literally) had to drag him out of bed int he morning to go to work after a night of playing video games until 3 am, with 3 hours of sleep. He was a child...irresponsible, no initiative or drive to do anything for anyone including himself. I cant even recall how many days he spent at home playing video games all day rahter than go to work. He is a master manipulator....and lazy as shit! It will catch up with him someday...

I used to tell him that if he put half the effort or time into the relationship we wouldnt be where we are today. Laziness is the BIGGEST turn off for me...and I will never do that again.
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Namaste that was my STBX in many ways too. I think things would be different with us too if he was able to work hard.

--Sara
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