i have noticed some changes here lately. i like your post very direct and to the point. hopefully that will be all it takes. this is a safe place to talk and heal.

I agree with u ladies...Men, this is not the place. I'm new to this sight as of yesterday. I came here for support and finding women's points of view so I could understand my wife. Go elsewhere if your trying to pick someone up

For the very reason you've mentioned this, I keep myself anonymous now so that doesn't come my way, as I've seen in many instances with others.
I'd like everyone to see me for who I am, but realize that keeping a now anonymous listing, I cannot be approached or even identified by ppl I don't want to know who I am on here, ie. my ex wife, etc.
As far as where the site should be, locked to ppl who aren't your friends or you've reached out to.
It is difficult to not attract ppl who might not even be a member of the BU/D page seeing an attractive single woman without knowing why or what they're doing on the site in the first place.
A suggestion to the site administrators could be to make either profiles or pics private also to just friends?
It is going to happen. It is human nature for ppl. to try and reach out to others for the simple reason we're not put here on the planet to be alone. my two cents anyway.

Fortunately this has not happened to me.

Kim - it happens a lot here, at least so i'm told! This is the internet and predators are everywhere!

that is why I had to cancel out my old account and take my picture off and am now using what you see with very little info. So ladies and gents please be aware there are some preditors on here and they will try to not only hook up with you but ask for money too.