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I had coffee with my mother-in-law today. This is the first I have seen her since the seperation. She was upset and cried. She told me that she is sorry for what he is doing and she doesn't understand why. She told me that she is not giving up hope and she would like me to not make an easy escape for him. It was hurtful of her because she is trying to make me have hope that it could work out, but when it doesn't i'm just going to be hurt again. I know she cares and she's trying, but i don't why she thinks that he is going to change his mind all of a sudden. He has to be the one willing to change, not just doing it because people are pushing to. He needs to fall on his face and be hit with the reality of his decisions. Any suggestions.
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I don't have any advice, just wanted you to know that I went through something similar with both my mother-in-law and sister-in-law.

In the end, nothing they said or did made a difference; he still did what he wanted to do all along.

I think that your mother-in-law will eventually see this for herself, as mine did.

I'm sorry, I know how difficult this all is.
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I had a similar exchange with my mother-in-law. What I want you to consider are her motivations. FOr me, my mother-in-law sees this divorce as her own personal failure. She was not considering my happiness, her son's behavior or our relationship - she was considering the impact this divorce would have on HER. She saw this as her own failure. Keeping us together would prevent that from happening. Everyone approaches things from their own perspective, through their own baggage. You need to do what's best for you. Gather your strength, stand strong in who you are, don't settle for less than you deserve.
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