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I don't know what to do...again.
On the phone yesterday he told me he had been out trying to find a surprise for Christmas. He didn't say if it was a surprise for me or for the kids, or for him, but it has me once again wondering what direction this is going to take. He has given me expensive gifts in the past, and I am afraid he will do the same thing this Christmas that he has done before. Give me expensive gifts and expect me to forgive and forget everything. But expensive gifts have never been what I want. I want an open, honest, caring, respectful, loving relationship. And know matter how many times I tell him what I want is not at the mall- he keeps doing the same thing...treats me poorly for months or years, big expensive gifts, continue to treat me poorly, and wonder why I am not happy. I guess what I am trying to say is if it came down to an expensive present or having him come home to work on our marriage togther,I would rather he just come home and forget the gift.
Another less forgiving scenario-he is probably buying something for his house and packaging it as a "gift for when we all move up here". The kids and I moving up there is an unlikely event after all he has pulled. But after seeing "gift for when we all move up here" in writing, I suddenly feel that that is what it is. He is too self centered right now to do anything else. I hope I am wrong!
On the phone yesterday he told me he had been out trying to find a surprise for Christmas. He didn't say if it was a surprise for me or for the kids, or for him, but it has me once again wondering what direction this is going to take. He has given me expensive gifts in the past, and I am afraid he will do the same thing this Christmas that he has done before. Give me expensive gifts and expect me to forgive and forget everything. But expensive gifts have never been what I want. I want an open, honest, caring, respectful, loving relationship. And know matter how many times I tell him what I want is not at the mall- he keeps doing the same thing...treats me poorly for months or years, big expensive gifts, continue to treat me poorly, and wonder why I am not happy. I guess what I am trying to say is if it came down to an expensive present or having him come home to work on our marriage togther,I would rather he just come home and forget the gift.
Another less forgiving scenario-he is probably buying something for his house and packaging it as a "gift for when we all move up here". The kids and I moving up there is an unlikely event after all he has pulled. But after seeing "gift for when we all move up here" in writing, I suddenly feel that that is what it is. He is too self centered right now to do anything else. I hope I am wrong!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Sounds like a painful situation; I wish you could get more detachment from the results of it all.
It makes him feel all better but you know what its not all better!!!