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Christmas inspiration needed

Seashells1
Seashells1
I have always loved Christmas. I am married to the Grinch. That has not always been the case. He used to love Christmas, but now does everything to make me miserable by letting me know how much he hates it. He used to say it was to commercialized. But now, he even refuses to go to church.

So my question is this....I want to decorate the house. I want to be able to create my own world, and lord knows I have the decorations to do this. What I would like from my DS friends is some kind of reminder why I should do this. I know he's going to bitch about it, but for some reason, I need to try to do this for me. I need to be reminded why I used to love this holiday. My parents and one brother are gone, and they used to be the biggest fanatics about the holidays, so someone please give me some encouragement on this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is time to do things that bring you joy. That make you smile and that make you feel alive. Do it because you want to, because you have the right to do whatever you want to do without anyones permission.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I love Christmas, and I have already started decorating. Still alot more to do. I refuse to let the divorce ruin things that I like to do and have always been apart of me.
Seashells1
Seashells1
I just don't know how to get past the F*#$ this, I'm not going to do anything. I've even thought about not doing anything, including shopping, because he just makes everything so miserable.
Seashells1
Seashells1
I just don't know how to get past the F*#$ this, I'm not going to do anything. I've even thought about not doing anything, including shopping, because he just makes everything so miserable.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've already put up my tree and decorations, wrapped my gifts and put them under the tree, I'm getting great enjoyment from it!
deleted_user
deleted_user
The reason for Christmas remains unchanged through all the perils of life. For me, that means: the light shone in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it.
Che2
Che2
I spent all weekend decorating my house. Kids came home to the fire burning, candles lit and the Christmas tree lit up. THEY lit up. Peaceful and beautiful..great reminders of the beauty of this season.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You go girl and do what is going to make you happy. I'm digging out my things tomorrow to decorate. I'm not going to allow him to control my life anymore, I'm doing things for me now and you should to. Decorate away!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes, do it...the great thing about being an adult is that you get to make all your own decisions!! be happy, do things to make yourself happy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you love christmas, your parents and brother used to be fanatics about the holidays, do it in their memory. do if for yourself, make yourself happy. don't let him take this away from you. celebrate Christ's birth. do it, just for the simple reason, you can. go for the grizwald look
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why should you decorate?

Because when you drive up the street to your house you will see it "all lit up" and it will bring a smile to your face. Because when you set the timer for the lights on the tree and it turns on, so will you. Because when you light the Balsam & Cedar Yankee candle it will give you a breath of fresh air.

Do it because you know how it will make you feel.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If decorating the house for Christmas brings you joy, then do it. Don't let anyone take your joy away. To many of us have done that and now we wonder why we allow others to ruin things for us. Decorate and be Merry.
sundance1958
sundance1958
Funny thing I asked the same thing the other day. For me it's just me this year and it isn't the best of circumstances for me either.I will say though that the replies I got made me say to myself "Do it for me" I am the grinch now too but you can simply do your thing because it makes you happy and you deserve to make it happy for you.My parents are gone and I have to family here so I understand the lost feeling and the why bother feeling. I put up some lights and I must say I am very creative and it made me feel good . I may want to tear it all down by Christmas but some of that comes with having up and down days so on the down days I will not look lol. Do your thing girl.
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