The Holidays are so hard, it isn't just you, it is all around.

I just started writing cards tonight.

Should I send a card from me to any of his family ???

Should I tell my friends/family who don't already know my marriage is over that it is??

"Merry Christmas - Rob moved out and we're getting a divorce !!""

How festive...

We didn't "do" Christmas last year. stbx didn't want to, I had a house full of rescue dogs, the finances were a mess since he wasn't working...but, he bought a custom ring for his pit crew chief. (damned dragster)

Then a pup that I had been trying to save for 10 days died on Christmas afternoon.

I don't think that this year could possibly top last year in the way of misery.

I am looking past Christmas and on to New Years Eve. Anyone wishing to come to the beach and get drunk with Margie and me is welcome.

I hear you MaryanneB, it just hurt to see a note at the bottom to me. I will not be sending his family any cards.They would only end up in the trash.

Christmas is such a downer in this situation. Last year was our first alone. As it turned out though, it was the lead up, and not the actual event that sucked. Just like so many other things. I was so happy last Christmas night that we made it through, and it was almost over, it may go down as one of the best Christmas nights ever!

Hey Mary...Can I borrow your idea? I like that.

#3.. tell me when and where! LOL

Gee Tami if we lived closer, I would be there with bells on, and cocktails

I havent gotten any xmas cards yet but I started filling out xmas cards before hubby and I seperated, signed with both our names. Now I dont even know if I will send them or hand them out. I know how you feel. Holidays are hard. It sucks.

Hey TamiJ anytime. You'll see, it's true!

Agree with you Mary it is the lead up, at least I know he won't be around christmas day.

The holidays are horrible. I miss my ex's family every time he mentions that he's going home to see them. I always tell him to tell them I said hello. His friends and I are still in touch and it's really hard, because I remember all the times that we (together) spent with those friends and all the good times that we shared. So far, it's still as bad as it was in the beginning but I have to hope that it's getting better.

The first card of the season showed up today, and I was just thinking about how I was going to handle this, though I'm leaning towards not sending cards, my holiday spirit is gone.

Thanks for bringing this up, it's good to know what the DSers think!

Yes, what joy..not. I am with you jester5 am not sending them out this year, have know energy to write out happy words,when I am not feeling that way.

I am going to take the opposite path than most on this one, I am going to send them out with one little thing missing, HIS NAME, I still want to wish others a Merry Christmas. I am one of those annoying people that sound out cards for every holiday, it was my thing, so just because he left that isn't going to stop me. I will still send to his family, the ones that I could stand ;) and everyone else. I thought that my Thanksgiving was going to be dreadful, but you know what? I was with my family and did my best to be positive and it turned out to be great. When I thought about a Christmas tree I said, NO WAY, FOR WHAT? WHO IS GOING TO SEE IT??? but then I decided, I will see it and I will enjoy it, why can't this be about me for once. I say attack Christmas and the holidays like you never have before, give it your all, shop, bake do whatever it is you can, do not let these men and women get the best of us, show them or atleast show yourself that you can start new. The things that don't kill you will only make you stronger and I am certain enjoying yourself on a holiday won't kill anybody.