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Child support.

deleted_user
deleted_user
My ex never paid child support at the last due date he was more than 1000 he did not come for his visitation, and was generally a pain in the ass. Texas Child Support office put out a warrant for his arrest bc he was supposed to be paying them. The warrant had nothing to do with me. He decides he would rather terminate rights than pay me 300 a month. Anyway, that's his issue. My question is he was 1400$ behind when he terminated his rights, so technically I am entitled to that money. I got paperwork today so they can set up his payment schedule. If he was to miss a payment he would be arrested again. I would have to report him. Should I even bother? I mean, he is out of my and my son's life. Part of me says, just walk.
What's your take?
deleted_user
deleted_user
1400-my daughters sperm doner was behind 10 years when he terminated and i never saw a dime.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would go after him and get whatever you can out of him. It IS his obligation whether he ever sees you or his child again. What a freaking LOSER!!! I am so sorry that you and more importantly your son have to deal with this. It's just not right.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you need the money for your kids pursue it otherwise...just let it end and be done with him. Hugs to you!
JennyN
JennyN
For me it is the principal of the matter.....REPORT HIS ASS!!!! Until he learns that he is responsible for his actions no matter what, he will continue with his behavior and other potential children will suffer. That is my take.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He needs to take care of his son, no ifs, ands, or butts about it. They should be able to take the money directly out of his check, so that there is no way he can miss a payment.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm Canadian, not familiar with American system... terminate or not, he should still be responsible for his children???What an easy out for dead beat dads. I am sorry that you are going through this. I would report it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for the advice. I was just thinking maybe I was being vindictive. Tomorrow is my son's birthday and it would be nice if I could afford a party, but he probably won't lose sleep over it. Thanks again for your support!
deleted_user
deleted_user
can they just do that, hey i want to termiante my parental rights cause i don't want to pay for my kid. my god, judges allow this. what the hell kind of twisted crap is this. report him and let bubba have a go around with him. good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The problem is, if he goes to jail, he's not working, he can't pay. I would try getting something, but don't let take up all your time and energy.
Sorry for your dead beat troubles.
Che2
Che2
around here they do weekend jail for child support violators..so they can still work. If he a person that you really do not want in your life...I would let it go..but ONLY IF that meant not having to deal with him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
He will probably just quit his job everytime they find him. You have to decide if it is worth YOUR time and effort. I don't know what your situation is, but if I could support my kids without him - then good riddance. If I can't I would have to consider the time and money involved in getting what is owed to see if it is worth it or not.
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