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Wow isn't it amazing how one phone call can change every positive thing you are feeling. My stbx just called and said he saw his attorney. And then talked about the division of things. It was like this stab through my heart. I can't stop crying. I just feel so awful. Does the pain ever stop. I try so hard to look at the good and not see the bad. How do you divide up 30 years of things and memories????
deleted_user
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So Sorry Lyn. Yes the pain stops. It always does. It just sucks we have to go through it. Hang in there.
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I hate the phone calls and text messages. I do much better when there is no contact at all.
patti22
patti22
I'm with you. Yesterday he sent me divorce papers. Feel like crawling into a hole. Doesn't help that it's raining here and can't go outside with the kids.
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You keep record of what you agree to divide. Then you fight for the rest. You will both end up with 50% but the fight is neccessary. Neccessary to justify lawyer getting 50% of your 50%.
Good luck.
The pain you get used to and one day its gone.
deleted_user
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Lyn-I'm sorry. It does get better, but just one day at a time. Tie a knot in the end of that rope and HANG ON TIGHT!

I don't believe it will be easy to divide up those 30 years so you should just KEEP IT ALL!!!
deleted_user
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(((Hugs Lyn))) Even when you are expecting it, that reality hurts.

You have been gathering tools together to help yourself with. After a good cry, start to use those tools.
deleted_user
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Lyn,
It will get better tomorrow is a new day. No you can't just divide up 30 years so I agree he was gone most of those 30 years so keep it all!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry for this Lyn, you have hit that point of no return and it is the hardest bump in the road.
This is where it all becomes way to real.
We are here for you lady. (((HUGS)))
deleted_user
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Thank you for the smile, yeah I will keep it all. LOL He said you don't want my tools so they will be on my list. I guess I will be okay if I can find the humor. Thank you guys for being there. I am not sobbing anymore, that is a start.
deleted_user
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I know how you feel Lyn mine was 26 yrs 2 weeks after he left found OW. I want half then I'm going to sell my half and start fresh
deleted_user
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You can find the humor! I'm sure your DS friends will give you something to laugh about. You just made me laugh! I agree put all those tools on your list!
caruTH
caruTH
Lyn, I don't think that the pain will ever stop, but it what you do with that pain that changes. Are you going to let the pain rule your life, or are you going to grow and become stronger from the pain. That is what I have to remind myself everyday.
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Hurt begats pain..Pain begats wounds..Wounds begat scars...Scars begat healing.Healing begats wellness.Wellness begats vitality.Vitality begats life. It is a process LYN.Give it time. :) _Savery!
deleted_user
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Lyn.. You have to believe that there are better memories to be made, and you get to "restock" your life with things YOU like... ((Hugs)). Im sorry your hurting... My new quote.. As I have answered alot of people when asking how I felt with "Ive seen better days".

New quote: "Ive seen better days, but I have to believe that there are better days then I have ever seen on the horizon".
deleted_user
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My husband walked out (37 years) with his stuff from his closet, his car, and a few pictures from his office. He said he wanted the garage stuff and I could keep the rest. Whoopee! I guess I should be thankful but all my "stuff" is early marriage decor and will always remind me of him. Maybe someday I can replace it. I don't look to ever replace the memories. Most of them were good and only the past few months have been something I hope I will
be able to get over. Prayers for you going up tonight.
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