It's just business--you need to trust me.

omg, don't even get me started on this one, lol. mine even tried to explain away text messages. seriously, do they think we were born yesterday?

oh, and don't forget calls at 4 am...business? yup...monkey business!

My stbx also told me that I'm letting "a LITTLE cell phone" destroy my life. Like he didn't have anything to do with it.

He learned how and became proficient at using the text message feature on his cell phone. I did not teach him how and wondering who did. He couldn't have figured that out by himself. He would sit there in our living room right in front of me, texting and laughing and if I asked who he was talking to he would bluntly say "none of your business". Just before we separated, I found a current cell phone bill which he hid from me and made a copy (I never investigated it;I decided not to, but there were many calls to the same phone number that I did not recognize.)

Up until the OW, my husband refused to even get a cell phone. Said they were garbage and cause of accidents. He got a cell so she could call him with out calling the house.

When I found it, he said it wasn't his, that a friend left it in his truck. The second time I found it he still tried to say it wasn't his, until I pointed out it had his voice on the voice mail box. Then he said it was his, but he never used it. Then I showed him the calls he made to her on it. He couldn't deny it then.

When he bought her a phone I never got an excuse but that was after she split. Dumb enough to call me on the the phone he got her and the id come up with his name. Called and checked and sure enough she had recorded a greeting on her voice mail.

We shared a cell phone. I left it with him during the day so he could call me at work. and I noticed the bills getting bigger and bigger, when I looked at it, the calls were to 2 numbers. He said that the numbers belonged to "dave." funny that dave's voicemail was a female with a different name. and funny that name and number now belong to his girlfriend. and he said that I was being paranoid and nosy!

I "found" $300+ in phone calls to Germany while looking at our bill online one night a few weeks ago. I was furious, because he can't pay the IRS, but he sure can rack up the cell phone bill.

His excuse was that if I hadn't of thrown a fit, he would've told me WHO used his phone to call Germany. He said it wasn't him, and because I threw a fit, there wasn't a need to clue me in on who it was because it wouldn't have mattered.

So, if it were someone else who used his phone, why did HE pay the cell phone bill after taking out another loan?

my ex says he lied because if i knew the truth that would be it he knew i knew

I've heard it all...You just need to trust me, it's just someone I'm working with, we're friends, I'm helping her with her problems, if you'd just talk to me then I wouldn't have to talk to other women! Lovely. One he even talked to daily and sometimes for an hour or a couple times a day.

My stbx was always sending "I miss you, I love you" text messages to his OW. When I finally confronted him, his excuse was "I meant to send them to you, but must've pushed the wrong button!!" Yep - I believed that!! LOL!!! What a jerk!!

We are just 'friends', liar !!

I hate the excuses for not answering my cell phone calls when I called. He was "out of range", "had the cell phone off", "battery was low", "it was out in the truck and he was inside", "ringer was off", "at lunch", "too loud to hear where he was", etc. etc., etc.

Ex bought her first cell phone a few months before she left.

Don't know what that has to do with this thread, but....

After watching the call I.D. for a month I posed the question and got the bold faced lie. After reading the deleted e-mail there was no question at all.