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Hi everyone
just joined the site today as I was feeling soooo lost and needed someone who can understand how I feel.
Anyhow, could anyone tell me how you know whether you are just being desperate by telling your husband of 5 years and partner of 13 that you feel your marriage is worth fighting for or whether you just need to let go when he says he has tried and it is down to how he feels? (or does not feel for you).
This is driving me mad....Does the word "for worse" mean anything when promising to love each other for better and for worse?
Thank you
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Anything worthwhile is worth fighting for. Your husband sounds like me a few weeks ago when I moved out after 15 years. My wife, god bless her, was willing to "fight" for me by actually letting me go. We did agree on counseling, and I would recommend you try and get him to go...but by himself, because he may not be willing to open up all the way if you go together. Oh crap! I'm late for my own session!!!
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I think if you can get him to agree to counseling and there is no one else involved you might have a chance of saving your marriage but it is not easy and you both have to want it other wise it will never work.
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I don't like the word desperate. What about hopeful you can convince your partner to work on the marriage. If your partner really wants to go, there is nothing you can do. If you beg, pled and cry, he will never come back. Allow him to have time and to miss you. Meanwhile, work on yourself and "relearn" how to be happy on your own. Once your partner sees this, he may come back.

My husband bailed out on our marriage. I am the kind of person who valued my vows but he saw them as disposable. I get people's priorities are different (and selfish).
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Hey Van, sensible words. I need to do just what you said, to not beg or plead. But i don't know how to do that. Anyone have any ideas?
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