I had a discussion with my stbx.during the talk he mentioned something intresting.If there is a problem weamen intend to forget about all the good things that we have done for them,he said.Is it realy true?i told him after we are finished he should consider marrying a man knowing he is gonna face the same problem with all weamen,seems to me his problems finds their way back to him with that kind of mentality.this is what i got out of it, while i was complaining about his behavior and asking for it to change like,cheating, watching porn,having no kind of relationship with kids,taking no resposibility for his actions, asking for physical and verbal buse to stop...,there is a little voice in his head that tells him:what an ungratful woman she turned out to be ahhh! they are all the same.huh! no wonder he can't hear me i'm just not loud enough compare to that little voice of his!!!