Amy, the help that you need is best provided by skilled counselers, not us amateurs. Find a local Planned Parenthood and a local abortion clinic. Get more than one perspective. Knowledge will help you decide what is best for and your unborn, not the self-serving instructions of your X.

I hope you don't get an abortion.

your ex is using emotional blackmail. your ex is trying to control you. you need to cut off all contact with him. you should be in your own head and making your own decisions for the good of yourself and the child. this baby does not have to be born into a war zone. this baby could be born into a world of love and goodness, but that is up to you. how about showing your ex how clever you are and make him disappear. have you considered having the baby and giving him/her a wonderful couple that can't have a child of their own (adoption), look into your own heart and pray to God for the answers you seek. not a selfish, controling, blackmailing ex.

Dear Amy

Dont rush that decision. look at all sides.. get a good professional counsellor and dont listent him, he sounds messed.. I will only talk to you if you get an abortion..please is that juvenile or what.....

Think about it long and hard.... think clearly. take your time....

I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks, I'm now 11 weeks so I've know for a while.I came to the desician to keep the baby because I simply hate the thought of abortion and when I got to the clinic I couldn't do it. But my ex has this overwhelming power over me...

I can only echo the above statements. Was never in your situation, but wouldn't trade any of my three kids for anything.

Then dont talk to the moronic father to be.... stay away from him and let him grow up, hire an lawyer and sue his ass of and get a no contact restraining order.....

But he has rights, and he says when it's born he'll get his parents to take it up and down the country from me to him, whcih I don't want! We live hours away from eachother but he does have rights

Amy I have walked in your shoes . Listen very carefully this is goingto be a long post. Nine years ago I found out that I couldn't or rather probably wouldn't ever have children, on my birthday actually my 23rd birthday because my boyfriend had cheated on me and given me pelvic inflamatory disease which caused so much scaring in my falopin tubes that they said it was probably impossiable. I was devestated. But I had one of those men that was good at getting into my head too, and I forgave him for cheating on me. And guess what I GOT PREGNANT. He already had 2 children and didn't wnt a 3rd. He told me to get a abortion or leave. his siter punched me in my stomach trying to make me lose my child. So I left. He told me never to ask him for a dime because i wasn't going to get anything out of him. I gave birth to a beautiful little boy who I love with all of my heart his name is Justice I have pictures of him posted on my profile. I didn't ever go after his dad even though it broke my heart. My son asked me over the years why don't I have a daddy? I told him about his brothers and I showed him a picture and I told him that His daddy just wasn't ready to be his daddy when I had him but that I loved him so much That I loved him and wanted to be his mommy. I got married when he was four I suffered a few misscarriages and finally had another child then had a hystarectamy at age30. My child are my whole world they give me strength when I have none they give me joy when I wouldn't be able to find any they always make me laugh they at times make me cry but you will never know love till you look upon your childs face. Now I'm going through a bad divorce a really bad divorce. A few months ago the state I live in went after my oler sons father for child support and his mom contacted me and asked to be a part of his life and I said yes even though i was scared I wanted was was best for my son. My STBX called my older sons father and tried to get him to turn on me to and testify against me because my STBX is an abuser. I haven't talked to my 8 year olds father in 9 years and my STBX has never met him. My older sons father was shocked and called me for the first time in 9 years and told me he wanted to testify on my behalf and he knows he screwed up and that he can't changed that now but that I have been really good to his mom and dad by letting them meet our son and i have been a good mom and he is sorry and maybe someday he will be able to make amends for the horrible mistake he made all those years ago. Follow your heart don't kill your baby if it goes against what you believe. That is your child and what if gof forbid something happen that you never get another chance. There will always be other chances for Love.

I wouldn't thing bad of you if you got one, I know a few who made that choice and have lived with it all their lives. Then again, I know others who didn't go through with it, and they too live with that choice. Some keep, some put up for adoption.

The one in the mirror and the one with you when you close your eyes is who has to live with the choice. You can either do what he would like and live with it, or choose 9 months or Life.

If you give it up for adoption you may never see him/her again.. but then again, you never know what will happen in 10-20 years.

It's one decision I am so glad I never had to make, or pay for.