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My x and I have mutual friends.. SO I just heard from one of them that last SUnday my x had a day off work (rarely he has a weekend day off) and Instead of spending it with his kids he spend it with another woman. I guess he is dating now.. I asked him about it and at first he denied it and then he Told me he is starting to date.
It has hurt me so much in many ways.. It hurts that he preffers to spend his time off with someone else instead of his kids.. They have not seen him for like 2wks and it hurts me cause It kills me inside the thought of him enjoying himself with someone else. I knew he would eventually do it but I thought his kids would always come first. I guess now I know why he called it quits with me..
I just cant seem to get over this and continue my life. I have been an emotional wreck.. Crying all the time.. I get all these mix emotions inside. Will this ever stop hurting? How should I handle him and the kids time?. My kids miss him so much and I see them hurting while their dad is happy and enjoying life. We have a mutual agreement that he will let me know which day or days out of the week he will see them cause his work schedule changes every week. He probably seen them 2-3 hrs a weeks and he is fine with that. Me and my kids are not.
Please someone comment and give me some advice. I dont wanna hurt anymore while he is happy and moving on.
It has hurt me so much in many ways.. It hurts that he preffers to spend his time off with someone else instead of his kids.. They have not seen him for like 2wks and it hurts me cause It kills me inside the thought of him enjoying himself with someone else. I knew he would eventually do it but I thought his kids would always come first. I guess now I know why he called it quits with me..
I just cant seem to get over this and continue my life. I have been an emotional wreck.. Crying all the time.. I get all these mix emotions inside. Will this ever stop hurting? How should I handle him and the kids time?. My kids miss him so much and I see them hurting while their dad is happy and enjoying life. We have a mutual agreement that he will let me know which day or days out of the week he will see them cause his work schedule changes every week. He probably seen them 2-3 hrs a weeks and he is fine with that. Me and my kids are not.
Please someone comment and give me some advice. I dont wanna hurt anymore while he is happy and moving on.
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the others are so right.. you must now be selfish...be focussed and be strong. You are the Mom.. and you have to take care of you and the kids now. Take, be selfish, if it means hard talk to him about seeing the kids.. do it.
be well and know that I am thinking very good thoughts for you.
I dont have kids with my ex so i am not gonna have much insight on that but i can promise u that time will help ur pain...
Its been 7 months since my fiance left me and i was a freakin mess...if u read any of my journals u will get a slight idea of how much i missed him and how much of an emotional wreck i was....
I started to feel like id never be ok again...i ried everyday...missed him every second.,,.all i wanted was for another chance.,..
I couldnt stand the idea of dating anyone or even going out for that fact... and the idea of him being woth someone or talking to a girl literally tore my heart right out....
I am tellin u this in hopes that u will realize that i was were u r emotionally....i felt like i was drowning in my pain and couldnt climb out...the thought of not being in pain was a dream...
It took a long time, 1000000000 tears and alot of acceptance but i am starting to feel a lil better..,.
no where near good but better...
Time does help as muh as u dont wanna hear that...it does
I can imagine its much harder having to continue contact with ur ex bc of the kids....I felt the lack of ontact i had with my ex helped me out in the long run....
I guess in ur case u need to seperate ur mom role from wife role... i know its gotta b hard but for ur sanity u need to find a way to seperate the 2.
when u do talk/asee ur ex keep itt strickly business and dont ask or let him ask bout personal lives....
think of him as a coworker not an ex.
try to avoid seeing him as muh as possible...seeing him will be much harder than just talking...if the kids r old enough let them run to him when he picks them up or have a friend there for the trade for a ouple weeks so u dont have to see him...the best thing for u now is as much space as possibible
as for getting upset bout him chosing a woman over the kids.....
He is going through alot of emotions and changes also,.,., he is tryin to dealk with it also - i am in no way condoning what he is doing but think of it like hes going through a mid life crisis...hopefully it will pass shortly....
try to avoid argueing or anything like that....
try to keep the peace - the more ander the more emotions and the more upset u get
try to maybe write a letter or calmly explain to him that his dis-interest in his kids is not only hurting u - its hurting the kids...
if he is a good father he will try to make this easier for the kids....they r going through alot also try to gently remind ur ex that they need him in their lives more right now.....
if all else fails - therapy can always help whether its for u, ur ex , ur kids or all togehter -
focus on the kids and urself not him