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Can't move on yet...

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The problem that I'm having as of this moment, is that my girlfriend left me because I had drug and alchohol problems and as a result didn't treat her as well as I should've. However, as I now try to get myself sober and pick up the pieces of my tattered life, she seems to be the only friend I have left that understands what I've been going through and knows what I want to do with my life.

I only keep in contact with her now through MSN, but find that there are days when it's nice to talk to her, and there are days when I wish I didn't even open my damn messenger.

How do I move on with my life without giving up the bestest friend I've ever had thus far in my life?
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It sounds like you are not over her yet. I hate to say it but I think being friends with her right now will only prolong the pain and the healing process. Be your own best friend or make new ones. I have found some great groups here in town through meetup.com.
Once you have recovered from the loss you can re-establish a friendship with her. Just my opinion.
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i know you don't want to give her up, but you have to concentrate on getting yourself better. you can't give her the kind of life she wants or yourself without recovery. one day at a time. good luck
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