So you're starting to panic. Why not just ask for a long engagement. Take time to get to know him and to stop panicking.

Too fast, too soon? You are the only one to define that. Why move that fast, are you afraid if you say it is too soon he will run to find someone else willing to love him? You've provided advice on this site that relegates simplicity and provides sincere insight. Maybe what you are feeling is what you have preached.

Okay something happened! What! Second thoughts,that can be a good thing. An egagement is meant to be a time when you both get to know each other,it is not cast in stone,that you must marry him.

Talk to him. Tell him where you are coming from. Give him a chance to help!

Stop putting all the pressure on yourself. One day at a time,girl.Slow down,breath deep.

Listen to Joordens...she's right. Just go day by day. No need to cancel anything, you just need to quit putting so much pressure on yourself. At least get to know him before you call things off.

All these ladies (and guys) are right blah, Just slow it down a notch and you will be fine.

Blahblah, I would be more worried if you WEREN'T stressed out about this. The stress is your brain saying you're moving too fast. There's no need to get engaged after 2 days. If this guy is on the up and up he will gladly wait for you. The 'one' is always worth getting to know and waiting for. Sometimes we just get caught up in a delicious moment. But take all the time you need and have fun with it. Good luck.

Relax Blah. Take your time! It's all good!!!!!!!!

Why do you have to undo it? Why cant you just take it easy and have a long engagement where you guys can take the time to really get to know each other. If it is meant to be as you say it is, it will work itself out. It's easy to get caught up then reality sets in.

Falling in love can be as physically draining as a race. you did this thing at an all out sprint- of course your body is telling you to slow it down. Just pace yourself and don't forget to breathe.
We rush into marriage when we are young and have no perspective of time, you have the wisdom to enjoy this early stage of relationship without skipping ahead to the next part. And you are not a biotch- you need to listen to yourself and the man worth marrying will listen as well.

You guys are life savers. Your advice and caring means the world to me. I almost had a full blown ( or maybe I did) panic attack. Never happened to me before. I thought I was going to have a heart attack or something. Then I read your advice here. Yeah engagement isn't the same as marriage and I can still change my mind. Whew! In my head it was like getting engaged locks me into that & I was just freaking out. I was sick all day yesterday & still have a major headache going on today. I think what was adding to my stress BIG TIME was my friend getting so involved because it's her brother. I called her up and told her what I feel and she told me to settle down and not worry that she didn't mean to make me feel like I couldn't change my mind if I didn't want the relationship that she just wanted to make sure I would not consider his feelings. Then I talked to him and told him it's too fast and I'm physically sick from it being too fast & he told me to stay home this evening and sleep and not worry about it and I can see him tomorrow. Thankyou guys !!! You could think while I couldn't * big smooches to you*

Dear Blah Blah

You are so blessed,, take the time and enjoy your new precious man...LOL .. let us know how it goes.

Wishing you the best whatever happens! Emotions can go all over the place. Give it some time and figure out what you really want.