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CAN'T BE BOTHERED LIST - do kids make a difference

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I was wondering how many of you out there who have split from a marriage or LTR are having the same problem as me. It's being 4 months now since the split and I STILL CAN'T DO ANY OF THE FOLLOWING:
Can't be bothered to wash my clothes anymore...7 years of doing it for US has left a bitter taste in my mouth for such things, just keep buying new underware and cloths as I need them...waste of money
Can't cook...7 years of preparing a 2 coarse meal everynight as meant that I now hate the sight of fresh ingrediants. Now eat a retruants and out at friends.
Can't be bothered to wash my hair...7 years of being told off if I did not wash my hair everyday as led me to jsut let it go greasy if I want to.
I'm sure there's lots more...
But do kids make a difference since you still ahve to keep up these things if u have them? It would be good to see how those with and those without kids respond...just wondering if those with kids hold it together better then those without or just can't be bothered about different things???
Can't be bothered to wash my clothes anymore...7 years of doing it for US has left a bitter taste in my mouth for such things, just keep buying new underware and cloths as I need them...waste of money
Can't cook...7 years of preparing a 2 coarse meal everynight as meant that I now hate the sight of fresh ingrediants. Now eat a retruants and out at friends.
Can't be bothered to wash my hair...7 years of being told off if I did not wash my hair everyday as led me to jsut let it go greasy if I want to.
I'm sure there's lots more...
But do kids make a difference since you still ahve to keep up these things if u have them? It would be good to see how those with and those without kids respond...just wondering if those with kids hold it together better then those without or just can't be bothered about different things???
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I hope you don't mind this comment but I think by allowing your prior relationship to govern you current behavior, you're still allowing someone else to control you. Do what you want - don't do something because you know someone in your past wanted you to do something else.
Also, my kids are young and get so much fast food with their dad they don't appreciate a good meal anymore. I to do a lot of mac n cheese, hot dogs, chicken nuggets, etc. I do cook but just not like i used to. If I cook it seems like there are way too many leftovers no matter how small I make the meals. Don't let you ex control you life. Get in the shower, fix your hair and put on some make-up, once you start feeling better about yourself you will start moving forward.
And yes, with kids, you are forced to do things you would rather not, but it's better in the long run. I think keeping yourself busy helps to work through the pain a little faster.
Im going crazy! But, I'll be right back, so stay tuned!
I have not let myself go, if any thing I have smartened and sexied myself up...new wardrobe rather than washing stuff.
The cooking thing is thing is the true bother for me...but i will come back!
I just wondered if those with children had the same feelings but could not let themselves go and be as self indulgent as those without children and if this led to a quicker recovery. Because when u have nothing but yourself to spur you on it's easy to just fall into a trap.
Thanks Guys for allowing me my indulgences lol