My Stbx is an alcholic who i kicked out of the house because of an affair. He moved in w/his mistress in May, i filed for divorce July 10. He has told me that i can have everything, the kids, the house and everything in it, everything.He didn't want to get a lawyer( doesn't have a lot of money), he just wanted mine to do all the work so i told him he had to pay half. He also said that he was going to cash in his 401k early and i could have half. I thought about it and told him i would accept but didn't need half(i thought it was a lot more than it is). I just wanted enough to pay all our debt except for the house and a travel trailor we own. Well yesterday he said the only way he will pay our debt is if i sign a legal paper saying that i would not ask for alimony and once the judge assigns child support i could NEVER have it increased. When i told him i had to think about it. I wanted to talk to my lawyer first. He went balistic and told me that if i tried to get alimony i would have a long bitter fight on my hands. I'm disabled and get 100%disability through the VA. He can't touch any of it and it is not suppose to be caounted as income. He said he would get a lawyer and go after and get the kids because i'm getting a stipen from the goverment. He has NEVER been there for the kids, his drinking ALWAYS came first. Now it's his mistress. I don't want to drag this out or pull the girls into it. Should i sign the paper or fight? Is it a bluff? I have done everything i could to keep this entire thing as civil, easy and painless as i can. Now i'm scared to death. Can i use his alcoholism, mistress and the fact he moved in w/her before we even filed for divorce against him? I'm really scared he's going to try to get the girls. I should mention my oldest is 15 and doesn't want to have anything to do w/her dad. I'm not woriied so much about her, it's my 11 yr old. She adores her dad, knows he did horrible things but doesn't want to say them out loud. She only sees him once a week for a couple hours and that's ok w/her. She doesn't want to meet the mistress at all even though he keeps trying to insist.(that's a different topic for another day). Any advice is greatly apppreciated. I'm losing my mind.
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