Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
What a life!
2004...First my brother commits suicide, then my brother in law dies in a motor cycle accident, then my Mom dies...all in a four month period.
A few months later I had major abdominal surgery.
Fast forward to 2005. Thought everything was good...lusty month of May and my husband enters a "mid-life crisis" and has an emotional affair with a co-worker. I confronted her, called and asked, "What are you doing"....she tells me, "Oh, you're making a big deal out of nothing, we're just friends that happened to kiss"
After months of trying to deal with my feelings of hurt and frustration (witnessing his infatuation and protection of her and feeling like he never was there for me emotionally) I filed for divorce.
2006...we're living apart but still having sex. We've been married 20 years and I'm realizing I'm codependent. Call him to fix this, do that, I'm lonely, come back. Meanwhile, he is an absolute wreck. Quits his job, starts in with on-line gambling and drinking JD straight up, smokes cigs and eats crap. Loses a bunch of weight to the point where I think he's clinically depressed. He threatens suicide...horrible thing to say to someone who actually lost her brother to suicide.
2007...We move back in together, the idea being to reconcile. We are not doing well...can't get through a week without fights coming up about who did what to whom, who wasn't there for whom...financial issues...
I recently had him arrested when he grabbed me around the throat and asked me, "Do you want to see how angry you can make me?" That scared me, but because I grew up physically, sexually and emotionally abused, I don't feel it's a deal breaker.
My own anger pulses through my veins and keeps me awake at night. I feel abandon, wrecked. I can't find a job. Don't feel capable of supporting myself.
I worked so hard up until now. Was always self-employed, meditated, did yoga, ate well..felt strong. These past few years have kicked my butt and I feel defeated, brought to my knees.
Present...he's taken a caretaker job and lives elsewhere. I'm at home with a 19 yr. old son who won't work and won't talk to me either. I can't bring myself to file for divorce again. WE already spent thousands trying to settle in 05.
I could use some advice! Thanks for listening~
2004...First my brother commits suicide, then my brother in law dies in a motor cycle accident, then my Mom dies...all in a four month period.
A few months later I had major abdominal surgery.
Fast forward to 2005. Thought everything was good...lusty month of May and my husband enters a "mid-life crisis" and has an emotional affair with a co-worker. I confronted her, called and asked, "What are you doing"....she tells me, "Oh, you're making a big deal out of nothing, we're just friends that happened to kiss"
After months of trying to deal with my feelings of hurt and frustration (witnessing his infatuation and protection of her and feeling like he never was there for me emotionally) I filed for divorce.
2006...we're living apart but still having sex. We've been married 20 years and I'm realizing I'm codependent. Call him to fix this, do that, I'm lonely, come back. Meanwhile, he is an absolute wreck. Quits his job, starts in with on-line gambling and drinking JD straight up, smokes cigs and eats crap. Loses a bunch of weight to the point where I think he's clinically depressed. He threatens suicide...horrible thing to say to someone who actually lost her brother to suicide.
2007...We move back in together, the idea being to reconcile. We are not doing well...can't get through a week without fights coming up about who did what to whom, who wasn't there for whom...financial issues...
I recently had him arrested when he grabbed me around the throat and asked me, "Do you want to see how angry you can make me?" That scared me, but because I grew up physically, sexually and emotionally abused, I don't feel it's a deal breaker.
My own anger pulses through my veins and keeps me awake at night. I feel abandon, wrecked. I can't find a job. Don't feel capable of supporting myself.
I worked so hard up until now. Was always self-employed, meditated, did yoga, ate well..felt strong. These past few years have kicked my butt and I feel defeated, brought to my knees.
Present...he's taken a caretaker job and lives elsewhere. I'm at home with a 19 yr. old son who won't work and won't talk to me either. I can't bring myself to file for divorce again. WE already spent thousands trying to settle in 05.
I could use some advice! Thanks for listening~
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Yes, I think limboland can kill you. I've been in limbo for the last 6 months and I truely feel like I'm dying little by little. I'm trying to come to acceptance I think it will feel better than limbo. Good luck.
Take it, load it up and LEAVE. Or, call an estate liquidator and have them buy it.
He Choked YOU. I do know what codependence is-but you already broke free once...you can do it again.
Just start focusing on that strength. Think of Where you could go and start Planning.
Good Luck.
Limbo is the worst stage I have been through. I hate the uncertainty it is a living hell. I think if he has been violent once then he will be violent again. I hope you can do what is best for you.