Hello, I'm new. I am in my second marriage and right now things are real bad due to my husbands ex-wife. We have been married for 2 years. I have 2 kids he had 1 and we recently had 1 together. His ex has started so many problems that I'm ready to bail. I know people say block it out, don't let her win but right now I'm hurt, angry, depressed, upset and not to mention my husband and I have had out share of problems such as dealing with the kids, showing favortism and what not. We've even wasted lots of money on an attorney in the past and found out you just gotta keep spending money to even begin and there's no guarantee to win. I believe I had some issues before marriage because I was very young when I got married the first time and had my first child and he was a very, very abusive person emotionally and mentally and I'm not sure if I ever got over that but I thought I did when I met my new husband because he's the opposite but now I think we're treating eachother as we did with our ex-spouse's. I guess I never bargained for the whole step-kids, troublemaking ex bit when I fell in love and married my husband but it has worn me down, before I got pregnant with our child I was drinking all the time and I enjoyed it. I quit my job to stay at home and take care of the kids but I feel desperate now because I have no source of income and how can I leave if I wan to? I feel trapped. I also feel alone and have nobody to talk to. I don't talk to my family about these things. As far as the ex goes she just pulled some major drama on us and we're wondering about getting restraining orders or some way to keep her away which actually she doesn't come to our home or anything like that in fact my husband will not speak or even look at her but she always finds a way. I feel depressed about the fact that I gotta wait till my step-son's 18 till I can rid her of my life and I've also noticed lately that his behavior and attitude towards me is getting worse per his mother I'm sure. When I tell my husband about his behavior we usually fight when he says something about one of mine doing the same to him and it becomes a battle of kid bashing. I just don't know what to do, I feel very alone and I feel like I don't have any emotions like something is wrong with me because on one hand I love my husband and I want this to work and I will not let her tear our family apart and on the other plan I'm picturing myself getting divorced and trying to plan how I'm gonna handle everything and yet feeling anger towards him his son and of course the ex. Is it possible to overcome these feelings and save this marriage or am I right feeling that once you have kids and are married then divorced forget about re-marriage until your kids are 18 so nobody has drama to deal with?
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