Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

10,362 Members
99,412 Posts
2 Online
Relationships & Sexuality
/ Breakups & Divorce Support Group

calling him

deleted_user
deleted_user
I want to call him so bad this morning. He would be up getting ready for work. I no I can't call as he will not answer. I sent him a text on saturday and he did not respond. I new he wouldn't so therefore I just hurt myself by dong that. How stupid. I no he is done and I want to be done but I just can't stop thinking of him and where he is what he is doing. We went to his mothers every Sunday for dinner. I just lost it yesterday at the time I new his whole family was having dinner. I feel the lost of his mother,sister and elderly aunt. They became part of my life. Then when he walked out I lost them also. Some friends told me go see his mom but to me that would just open myself up to more hurt then I alreay am feeling.I have to cut all ties and I no that. But damn him how could he not care what this has done to me and my kids. It took my kids awhile to accept another man after there father but they finially did and now he walked out on them also. I want to call him so bad!!!!! I need help it's killing me inside.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree its so hard not to call when someone has been a large part of your life. It does get a little easier with time and no contact where possible helps the healing process.

I too have lost a family because I feel it would be too awkward and too inconvenient for my inlaws if I were to go and see them plus all I want to do is bad mouth my ex for lying to me for 12 years and breaking my heart and destroying my life twice in the past four years.
My own family are 200 miles away so weekends are really hard being all alone when I am used to being part of a family unit. Have you anyone you could invite round for Sunday lunch? it may help
Lululiga
Lululiga
Ignoring you, and your contact...is a type of weapon..and you hand all your power over to him...When you make contact,knowing you will likely be ignored..

Its very hard moving on. I get huge urges to contact my ex..but am fighting them really well..I'm proud of myself, when I don't do it..It wouldn't change anything..

You're right, he doesn't care...and that really hurts..and we all feel at some staage, that given another chance, we might make it differn't, and its so hard to let it go..

But it wouldn't be any differn't..and painful as it is, and othere losses surrounding it..it will be for the best..in the long run..If you just ride through the pain and loss..it does get easier...
Lululiga
Lululiga
having a friend over on a Sunday..is a great idea!!
mammytiller
mammytiller
I understand about the family thing. I gave up my family a long time ago so I really jumped in with my ex's family. I feel like I fit in there better than he did. I was hurt for a long time and could not talk about the divorce. Finally, I called hi mother a couple of times and felt better. It does feel strange though.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry you are going through this. My daughter is having a hard time too with not seeing his family. They just don't realize everyone they are hurting from their selfishness....but that's just it, they won't because they are too wrapped up in themselves. It does get easier though with time. Hang in there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was dealing with the same thing yesterday. I wanted to text him so bad but I didn't because I knew the way I would feel afterwards. Next time you are tempted to call or text think about the way you always feel afterwards and I guarantee it will change your mind.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • carrie415

    Widow/Widowers Traveling/Cruise Trips??

    Posted by: carrie415
    Last Reply: Myfavorite
    11
    I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
  • joannklingaman

    Grief

    Posted by: joannklingaman
    Last Reply: lovesloons
    11
    A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...