Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Christmas was always my favorite time of year. I\'d wake up and make a big breakfast, not unlike most Sundays, of pancakes and bacon and coffee for my husbdand, tea for me and chocolate milk for our son. I\'d put out a fresh plate of cookies to nibble on after breakfast as we all sat on the floor around the tree and opened the presents we had been dying to give each other.
This Christmas is different. My family has been torn apart, and I still don\'t understand why mind you. Hanging the ornaments used to be so fun for me and was my favorite part of decorating. Only this year a whole box of ornaments could not be displayed because they showed all three of our names - and we are not all together anymore. This year I purposely did not make certain Christmas cookies because they were his favorites and I couldn\'t bring myself to do it. This year, my heart is being ripped apart because in less than a year from even our separation, I\'ve been replaced and while I am the one who still can\'t figure out how to move on, he shows no remorse for destroying the happy delusion I had lived - and the family that he created.
I\'ll be surrounded by family for the holidays, but will undoubtedly feel more alone than I\'ve ever felt before. I can\'t bring myself to go to church - the only refuge I ever had. And the idea of being replaced before we\'ve even talked about an annulment - don\'t even get me started on that!
This Christmas is different. My family has been torn apart, and I still don\'t understand why mind you. Hanging the ornaments used to be so fun for me and was my favorite part of decorating. Only this year a whole box of ornaments could not be displayed because they showed all three of our names - and we are not all together anymore. This year I purposely did not make certain Christmas cookies because they were his favorites and I couldn\'t bring myself to do it. This year, my heart is being ripped apart because in less than a year from even our separation, I\'ve been replaced and while I am the one who still can\'t figure out how to move on, he shows no remorse for destroying the happy delusion I had lived - and the family that he created.
I\'ll be surrounded by family for the holidays, but will undoubtedly feel more alone than I\'ve ever felt before. I can\'t bring myself to go to church - the only refuge I ever had. And the idea of being replaced before we\'ve even talked about an annulment - don\'t even get me started on that!
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
He may want or like the distraction. He may not be able to face the problems, or complexities that developed... who knows... but I hope you know you are one of a kind and cannot be replaced.
I can relate to the bitterness you are feeling, and don\'t blame you for your hurt. I do still hope you find some small things along the way that bring you moments of peace or joy. You deserve that and he cannot rob you of all your joy in life.
Your feelings of being replaced are completely normal and I too sometimes feel like he just removed me like a peg and then just put another peg in my place. But you are NOT replaceable, keep telling yourself that. It is hard not to feel that way I know because I often struggle with it but we cannot let their actions determine our self-worth. We are not replaceable and by the time they figure that out it will be too late.
I wish I had more words of encouragement in all of this but I too am struggling to get through this holiday (its like I want to wake up and it be January) This Christmas will be our daughter\'s first Christmas (she is 6 months old) and it breaks my heart that she will never know what Christmas was like when we were a family.
All I can tell you is that I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you are NOT alone this Christmas. I pray for peace and calm in your heart as you go through this holiday. You will make it through, we all will, we just have to take it moment by moment this Christmas.
Keep your chin up we will all get thru this. I am so glad I found this website, I feel like I finally have people that understand. Merry Christmas!
Peace enter our hearts someway. I am thankful for this space to write and interact with people who are experiencing similar feelings, and I hope (and pray, for those of you who are the praying kind) that you can find some sweet with your bitter.