I don\'t know your situation, but I am willing to go out on a limb here and say that you can never be replaced.

He may want or like the distraction. He may not be able to face the problems, or complexities that developed... who knows... but I hope you know you are one of a kind and cannot be replaced.

I can relate to the bitterness you are feeling, and don\'t blame you for your hurt. I do still hope you find some small things along the way that bring you moments of peace or joy. You deserve that and he cannot rob you of all your joy in life.

I know you feel alone but have faith in knowing that you are not alone. Many if not all of us on this site share in your sadness and confusion with the upcoming holiday. Family and friends are wonderful and surrounding yourself with them for the holidays is a good idea but it can be a challenge as well because with all of the well-meaning intentions they just don\'t get it sometimes (not in a bad way) but they are not living it so it can still feel lonely. I too did not indulge in the activities that we used to do as a family (actually the fact that you made any Christmas cookies at all is a step ahead of me).
Your feelings of being replaced are completely normal and I too sometimes feel like he just removed me like a peg and then just put another peg in my place. But you are NOT replaceable, keep telling yourself that. It is hard not to feel that way I know because I often struggle with it but we cannot let their actions determine our self-worth. We are not replaceable and by the time they figure that out it will be too late.
I wish I had more words of encouragement in all of this but I too am struggling to get through this holiday (its like I want to wake up and it be January) This Christmas will be our daughter\'s first Christmas (she is 6 months old) and it breaks my heart that she will never know what Christmas was like when we were a family.
All I can tell you is that I hope you can find some peace in knowing that you are NOT alone this Christmas. I pray for peace and calm in your heart as you go through this holiday. You will make it through, we all will, we just have to take it moment by moment this Christmas.

thank you - I haven\'t stopped crying for 2 hours now. I can use all the encouragement that can be thrown at me!

I feel like we are living the same life. I wish I had the answers but I think this process may take years. I too have a hard time going to church, I went to early mass today so the kids and I wounldn\'t have to see him with her and her kids, while we sat as a torn family alone.
Keep your chin up we will all get thru this. I am so glad I found this website, I feel like I finally have people that understand. Merry Christmas!

I feel your pain and want to keep on the bright side as much as possible. My parents are coming up for dinner tomorrow, and I have no motivation to clean the house or cook. How\'s that for bright side. But, wow, did my daughter (3 yrs old) ever shape my world view this morning. The first thing she said when she woke up was, \"Mommy, I grew taller last night!\" And then she said, \"Let me look out the window.\" Upon looking out the window, she exclaimed, \"What a beautiful world!\" Not a bit of this is made up. I told her she MAKES the world beautiful...and in my heart, I know I too have that power. Just today, I will let myself feel the pain of going through my first Christmas in 5 years without my stbx. FOr some people on here, it\'s been much a longer time. There\'s probably not much of a chance you can have a 3 yr old\'s innocence and see the world as beautiful, but I do accept it as the most precious gift she could have given me to begin this very difficult day.
Peace enter our hearts someway. I am thankful for this space to write and interact with people who are experiencing similar feelings, and I hope (and pray, for those of you who are the praying kind) that you can find some sweet with your bitter.