Sounds like you could use some counselling.. so get some for yourself and your ongoing relationship with your children.. they are not getting a divorce..you are!!!

I think you're mislabeling your emotion. And counseling will probably help.

Gosh, I ought to get pissed over this one too you cheating ^%R#%$#!
Then on the other hand I have plenty of forgiveness in me for my own husband right now and your post could have been written by him (except for the 2 kids), so I'll pretend that you are a guy with some consiousness inside.

Stop feeling so sorry for yourself and think a little about your new gf, your kids AND your wife. I bet my @.. that they are all hurting a lot more than you are right this moment! YOU do that to them.

You're SIX weeks into a separation and you are trying to get your new girlfriend to commit? Sounds like she's a smart woman to me.

You need time to recover from your marriage. You won't find a martial counselor in this country, nor probably anyone on this forum who would recommend anyone getting into a serious relationship after only being separated for 6 weeks.

I agree with Cherub. You should get some counseling. While many of us understand the fear and loneliness that would drive someone to seek refuge with another person right away, these things tend to end badly and it sounds like your girlfriend knows that. Give yourself some time to heal. Hugs.

Well, you picked a good title for the Topic. You are definitely being selfish. I don't know what your wife did to hurt you, but starting another relationship while being married is definitely not the way to go.

Eh hello McFly, what the hell you left you wife six weeks ago and your whining about your new girl friend having committment issues. You desperately need to get a clue my friend. Instead of being with your girls or trying to fix your marriage you went out and got a girl friend. You should not stay married because of your kids you should try to save your marriage for your kids. If you girlfriend has any brains she will drop you like a hot potatoe and never look back Wake up you need therapy or you just plain dumb. You are the poaster boy for selfish.

Why are you in a relationship before the divorce is final anyway. You remind me of a cheating husband.

Your new girlfriend should not only not committ..she should run for the hills. If your wife has been hurting you for years..why wait until you have a new gf to leave??

I have been seeing my "new" girlfriend for 6 months. I had an affair with her because for the last 10 years my wife has cut me and our children out of her life...she admitted it to me! I do not expect anyone to say my affair was "Ok" but after 10 years of only recieving love from my children and being constantly put down by my wife. A woman who comes along and sees you as a man who is caring, intelligent and has something to offer.

Oh yeah, I would think that any women in their right mind would not want to be with a man that left his wife and is jumping into a relationship right away. I know that I won't ever date a man that cheated or left his wife.

If she is willing to be with a man that is already married, then she is just as bad as you. Know what I call people like that? Homewrecker.

Sounds to me like you need to go to the Co-Habitation boards, Sean. You need to realize that you do NOT NEED someone in your life at all times... Good grief!~! The selfish, self-centered people, I swear!~!

So because your wife has a problem that gives you the green light to have an affair. Then you lie and say it has been six weeks when it really has been six month. You have no moral ground here, get rid of the girlfriend and get a divorce or work on your marriage with a marriage counselor. Just because cheating is easier does not make it right. If you are looking of sympathy you have come to the wrong place. Grow up and be a man, your wife has issues and your answer was to cheat.

Dear SEANE

You need a reality check .. it takes two people to have a marriage fail.. after 10 years...you needed to do something 10 years ago. and you expect sympathy from us for having an affair while you were married?

Get a life - ever heard of COMMITMENt, you said vows with your wife.. if it was over for you.. get divorced.. but dont' just go have an affair.....

Ever heard of DISEASE..so it is okay for you to expose your wife to everyone else your girlfriend ever slept with? or are you gonna tell us you have always practiced safe sex.....

Yeah, sounds like selfishness to me. I'm not going to flat out bash you without knowing your whole story but worrying about the gf not committing? Come on. It's bad enough that she's dating a married man but expecting her to commit to one. I would recommend completing one project before going on to the next.