Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Over the past few days I've reflected on my previous relations to better understand what they really were about. A common thread throughout has been wanting the relationship to be on my terms. That's fine if I'm in a relationship with myself only, but going forward its not just about me.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
It was then that I realized that we were in for a rocky time because I had been healing three years from my divorce and was ready for a loving give and take...a relationship with balance. With her, I gave and gave and she took and took...not a good foundation for a long-term partnership.
Now, I know that I need to be with a person who can be present; who gives back...not just stuff or sex...but to be willing to do the work of love. I am excited at the prosepct of experiencing a relationship like that and I believe it IS possible!
It depends so much on your partner too. Really it does. If you can find a relationship that you can put yourself aside and work on the US of it, that is a plus.
Couldn't do that too much with the EX. It was hard as hell to put myself aside and make choices for US first when he was always running around my back in so many ways. Now? I have a great guy that I CAN do that with.
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It seems after hearing SO MANY stories from so many people (particularly women) that they tried to accommodate themselves to a less than fulfilling relationship, that leaving seems the better, healthier, more mature decision to make under such circumstances.