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being right all the time

keepthehope
keepthehope
Have you been the type of person who thinks it is so important to be right all the time? And if you are did that cause the breakdown in your marriage? I believe in having a strong conviction but I also believe in compromise. I am not the one who believes in my way or the highway that is my stbx. Being right all the time can only end up hurting oneself, the ones you love and the ones who love you back.
Is being right all the time worth it???
deleted_user
deleted_user
i don't believe that one person can be right all the time. no one is perfect except Jesus Christ. i think it's a control issue. insecurity.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Absolutely not...and if one feels they are always right, some major work is ahead of them! Awful Narccisitic to not ever be wrong.

When I am 100% sure of something, I will not back down, however if I am proven wrong, I will be the first to apologize.
deleted_user
deleted_user
We didnt have a lot of disagreements. If we did I was wrong. If I didnt agree to being wrong she would ask if I wanted a divorce. She left.

Boy did I ever have an adjustment to make once she was gone. Peace in the home, I could do what I wanted, no one degrading my every move, no one guessing totally off the wall on what I was thinking, no stacks of empty beer cans and vodka bottles on the kitchen sink.....

.....the list goes on and on.

One thing for sure. Being wrong all the time is not worth it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My stbx was one of these. He would HAVE to prove that he was right even on stupid things that no one cared about. He went so far as to embarrass me in public a few times which really hurt my feelings.

He always had to think he was right but this did not lead to the break up of our marriage. It was his selfishness that did that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Me and my stbx didn't have alot of disagreements or arguments, maybe we should have though....

Still, yeah its an insecurity issue. I'd rather be with someone who looks at disagreements as something to resolve as opposed to something to win.
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