Maybe get a real man to move in. Ask God to come live with you for a while. Thats what I did when I was at my lowest. Sorry I cant help you better.

I agree with zoot! The only one who can help you heal is God. He's already there you just need to be willing to open the door. Take care, Beth

The lesson I seem to be learning is that you have to love yourself as much as you love your partner. People can't love you if you don't love you. It seems selfish and counterintuitive, but that seems to be what it takes. Please look out for yourself and then I think the pain will end and you will find lasting happiness and find someone to share that with you.

bhamguy's right. Another human can never completely fulfill our need for love. Because human's aren't perfect and we let each other down no matter how hard we try. But if we learn to love ourselves and accept our own weaknesses and strengths, it makes it easier to accept others weaknesses when they let us down. We find our need for fulfillment to be more realistic and possible.

I am so sorry to hear about all of your pain. You need to love you, to realize he isn't what gives you value. You are inportant and valuable no matter what.

My heart goes out to you. We all really do now how you feel. There will be ups and downs, try to appreciate the ups. They tell me, they eventually start to become more frequent as time goes by. The ache is still there for me, but I am trying to focus on making myself feel better. That has to come from inside. Take care of yourself! We're here for you.

please have some faith in yourself, we all do. God is there, you just have him hidden under your pain. babysteps...if you feel better for just a half hour realize thats forward. soon the momentum starts you going toward ahealthy future. its a rollarcoaster for a while but the ups are up.

I'm sorry, but I just can't shut up on this one. What the hell were you thinking?!? Did you think he would come back to you if you did something so drastic? HE NEVER WILL! And if he did, he would definately NOT stay for long. If nothing else, this attempt at harming yourself will push him away even more. Your love for this man was more important to you than your children having a mother?! You are being very selfish in attempting suicide and leaving your children with NO mother! You better get some serious medical help and do it now! I really feel sorry for your children.

Trust in God. This to shall pass. You can't truely love him if you don't love yourself first... I say this not to be mean but to make a point. You can't love you, if you are hurting yourself like that. Look into you, work on you. There is a reason he's gone, remember that. You are better than this pain. You are stronger than this struggle, you just have to step up and change your life, not end it. You will miss him, you might miss him for a long time. Lean on your friends and family, lean on us, turn to God! Stay strong. Stay safe. Stay sane!

It helps me to remember that feelings, happy or sad, are really chemical reactions in our brain and we can learn to control them. Just think how happy you are and then someone gives you some bad news. Nothing changed except that the new thought made you stop producing the chemical that naturally makes you happy.

It may sound like BS, but we really can choose to be happy! It takes time and practice, but learning that you really are the one who makes you happy is the first step.

God bless!

I'm so sorry for your pain, really I am. We know what you are feeling. It stinks! This wasn't what was supposed to happen...but like the expression goes "Life happens while we are making other plans".

Letting God into your life and home can happen in different ways for different people. For me, I've begun to enjoy the wonder of nature. For others it's gardening, etc.. All are gifts from God. Life is a gift from God, right now, it doesn't feel like a gift I know. It will again some day, really it will. ((((HUGS)))))