It's been a while since I came on but life has been manic. So much has happened since the day my husband left. From him coming home one night after work to say he didn't love me anymore, to leaving straight away, lying for a month that there was no-one else then finding out he had slept at her house a week after he loved me. Things have been crazy, I have made stupid mistakes because of the hurt and emptiness I feel everyday without him. It is nearly five months since he left now. He is still with the ow. He has now asked for a divorce, I don't want a divorce but I have no choice. After only a year and a half of marriage I feel like a failure. I am divorcing him for adultery. I have kind of just started to accept it's over and I have to move on. I'm just so dreading my 19 month old daughter meeting his new girlfriend. My solicitor said unless she is a risk to my daughter there is nothing I can do about the girlfriend being in her life. My concern is that she is a bad influence, she smokes, she uses bad language, she has her friends round all the time for social occassions. I don't want my daughter in that. Also I think it will be confusing for her to see her daddy with someone else and they have only been together since he left me so whose to say it will last. I don't want my daughter confused by a succession of women coming and going. The ow has a daughter herself and she had my husband sleeping round the first week they got together, what does that say about how careful she is with people around her own daughter, let alone mine?