I was here 2 years ago when my husband left me. I got better. Now Im back needing help. I began dating last year...six months ago met a man and there followed a whirlwind romance. He had been married 15 odd years with 2 sons and it ended 3 years ago. He had a few short relationships, as did I, then we met. Within a few weeks we both were saying we loved each other, he moved in with me 3 months ago. He is 38 and I am 48. He seemed perfect, he loved my home, my life with dogs, and I felt loved. Then he broke his shoulder and becaome almost housebound, off work and trapped. Last weekend we had a row and I sent him a text telling him to stay away because he had gone out all day ....it was done in anger. He disappeared for 3 days (later found out he had gone camping with friends)...he said in that time he thought about us and decided he didnt want to be with me. The text had reminded him of the marriage, he felt trapped, he wanted his own place and time to sort his broken shoulder out, and somewhere to live nearer to his workplace, he is worried about losing the job he loves..........all in all, he packed his stuff and left. He is staying with his brother and family...not in a place near his work or on his own. What I want to know is, is it likely he just fell out of love in a weekend, or his he just confused, will he go away and sit down and rethink and maybe come back..or when a man says he needs to go, he goes and that is it for him. He would not live alone...he went from his mum, to his wife, back to his mums then to me. He used to disappear from his wife for days at a time in the same way. He is bad with money and gets into debt...and I wonder if maybe he couldnt handle the responsibility of a relationship where money had to be accountable. And here I am thinking I had found someone I loved, a miracle - and it was my last chance because it took me 30 years to fall in love again. I know he had feelings for me, he itnroduced me to all his family who came to my house for dinner and me to theirs etc...I met his friends...I dont understand the running away so suddenly
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