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Okay, so I am learning that this process is not as linear as I would have liked. Just as I moved into, what I thought to be, the "next" phase of healing- I totally feel like crap now. These are feelings that I experienced at the start of all this. Is it not suppose to get better with each passing day? I'm not sure how long this going to last or when it will hit me next and with what intensity. It is so difficult dealing with something that is so out of your control. I keep thinking I am getting better but all this hurt is laying right below the surface and once in awhile like a venting volcanoe comes out with a fury. Oh! How I long to deal with this pain and sadness in another way. I know it is all about the baby steps. What are the small things you all did to slowly bring some stability and joy back into your lives? It has been awhile since any joy has been around.
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I am hoping to find that joy myself,, I can actually go a week or two when I actually feel that everything is ok,, then it comes seeping back in!
It is not as hard as it once was! However, I just did something I have begged other on here not to do,, I just sent a woe is me e-mail,, and as soon as I hit send,, I wanted to pull it back! ;-(
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One thing my counselor recommended that did help was allowing myself to only think about my husband at a certain time each day. That everytime thoughts of him came into my mind I had to tell myself I had to wait. Then I set a timer and can cry and think all I want about the situation and journal to get the emotions out, then when the time is up I stop. I have been trying, so that I deal with the pain but don't let it run my life. I talk with friends and laugh when I can.
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I understand what you mean. It comes and goes in waives. One day I'm completely up and optimistic, but once in a while a dark cloud hangs over me. You're doing the right thing by surrounding yourself with support! That's the only way I'd stay sain.
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It is truly a roller-coaster ride. Lots of ups and downs - the ups get more frequent and the downs come less and less, but still find a way to sneak up on you. You will get through this - stay strong and let yourself feel your emotions when you are in a downward trend. It is healthy - not fun, but healthy. HUGS
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Baby steps is right. You need to take one day at a time. No one (not even people in healthy relationships) know what tomorrow will bring. Just focus on getting through the day.
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