Don't do it.. blood is thicker than water and what you say or do may come back to haunt you in the form of an affadavit from them in support of her...... trust me on that one...

In laws always side with blood

My MIL did not like me from the beginning so I know she has probably NEVER said anything to her son about his stupid choice. I'm sure she thinks he's much better off.

I would NEVER talk to them and one of the good things about not being with ex is I never have to see those people again or at least socialize with them.

actually, I have to agree on this about blood being thicker then water.

I mean, I was in good standing with my inlaws too, and frankly I think inlaws try to be nice even long after the breakup, just to keep peace in the household, but trust me, when it boils right down to it, blood is thicker then water, and if they don't talk bad about you to their faces, they'll talk bad about you away from your face, its how it always works.

I found that out the hard way myself. My first wifes dad, I really loved that guy. Was probably the best friend I ever had, but after we separated, boy did that change. I mean, he was nice to me and everything after that, but he ended up stabbing me in the back so many times after that, it hurt me very deeply for the longest time, because he was my friend. he always listened to me when noone else would, and really was like a father to me, but oh well, its the way it is I guess.

DON'T DO IT!!!! I asked my mil to help and she totally stabbed me in the back. They will not side with you no matter what you have done for them or how well you get along.

WARNING. DO NOT - REPEAT - DO NOT INVOLVE YOUR IN-LAWS.

Once they check in, they don't check out. If your marriage survives, you will be sorrrrrry you ever did this.

You gotta wash that thought right out of your head!

As the South Pacific song goes...

Blood is ALWAYS thicker than water as everyone else has suggested.

Well, I have been getting great support from my sister in law. She has been awesome even though I am going to be her brothers Ex. I see no problem with trying. Maybe they can reach her somehow. I know that inlaws are having trouble even contacting my husband. Maybe he doesn't want anyone to try and talk him out of this thing....I dunno...

But, it may hurt you as well because like someone said...Blood IS thicker than water...usually.

Well I guess I am the odd man out. My inlaws did everything to help me. They tried very hard to get stbx to see what he was doing. Even now they support me fully.

Though I must say, when it comes to holidays and such I know I will be the one left alone. If there was a choice. Stbx probably won't be around for holidays so we won't have to worry about that one.

If you do go to the in-laws make sure you do it with her best interests at heart. Be careful because yes, blood is thicker than water.

Good luck and take care, Beth

When my husband walked out on me the first time, the first person I called was his Dad. His Dad went to talk to him and really all it did was drive a wedge between them. Now that he cheated on me, his family has decided that they get to keep me in the divorce. I feel for my stbx, because of his actions he has no one. But I wonder, if I hadn't told them anything to begin with, would this time be any different? Think about the future, how will having her family involved hurt her relationship with them in the future and how will effect your relationship with her?

Good Luck

Think wives and mothers going to their in-laws is a lot different than men looking for help from theirs.

I think if we did a poll... 99.9% of people would say...stay away from the inlaws.. blood is thicker than water...

I don't think so... seems to me no matter how much they like you.. they will always side with their own.. just a gut feeling.
yes.. I agree Blood is Thickier than Water...

Me... lol.. my father in law has been married 4 times....he does not understand what marriage is about and suddenly HE and the long lost son have become close. I am not even going to let them know that I am sick.

I agree, blood is thicker than water. BUT, My XMIL & I are best friends. We always got along good during the 12 years together (8 marrid) to her son. We just always had a bond that has not been able to be broken. She TRIED everything she could to make our divorce amicable,(to no avail). I couldn't ask for a better friend in my life. NO, she does NOT talk about me behind my back. I know that for a fact. ;)

Did you marry my ex?????? She never told anyone about her wanting a separation, or her having a guy stay with her for a few days, or her desire to get a divorce. Everyone in her family thinks she is an angel and that it is all my fault. Go head and reach out to them.