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When it comes to talking to people during a separation and you want to save a marriage but your stbx is in denial is much as you are or feel, what are your thoughts in reaching out to your inlaws for help? I feel I am in good standing with them. I have been careful in what I have been saying to them, but do you feel this can do more harm or help with them to get her to talk. My stbx has not been talking to anyone not even her family. She has shut herself from everyone.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I would NEVER talk to them and one of the good things about not being with ex is I never have to see those people again or at least socialize with them.
I mean, I was in good standing with my inlaws too, and frankly I think inlaws try to be nice even long after the breakup, just to keep peace in the household, but trust me, when it boils right down to it, blood is thicker then water, and if they don't talk bad about you to their faces, they'll talk bad about you away from your face, its how it always works.
I found that out the hard way myself. My first wifes dad, I really loved that guy. Was probably the best friend I ever had, but after we separated, boy did that change. I mean, he was nice to me and everything after that, but he ended up stabbing me in the back so many times after that, it hurt me very deeply for the longest time, because he was my friend. he always listened to me when noone else would, and really was like a father to me, but oh well, its the way it is I guess.
Once they check in, they don't check out. If your marriage survives, you will be sorrrrrry you ever did this.
As the South Pacific song goes...
Blood is ALWAYS thicker than water as everyone else has suggested.
But, it may hurt you as well because like someone said...Blood IS thicker than water...usually.
Though I must say, when it comes to holidays and such I know I will be the one left alone. If there was a choice. Stbx probably won't be around for holidays so we won't have to worry about that one.
If you do go to the in-laws make sure you do it with her best interests at heart. Be careful because yes, blood is thicker than water.
Good luck and take care, Beth
Good Luck
yes.. I agree Blood is Thickier than Water...
Me... lol.. my father in law has been married 4 times....he does not understand what marriage is about and suddenly HE and the long lost son have become close. I am not even going to let them know that I am sick.