I am always concerned how friends and relatives would judge me. Therefore, I have difficulties coming to terms with letting friends and relatives know that i am going to be divorced soon. I worry they may see me as a failure and pass remarks or comments like "i always have been a difficult woman and that's why my stbx chose to leave" or "one of them must be cheating" (which is not true as we are separated due to irreconcilable differences). I know i shouldn't care what others say but i can't overcome this fear and it is really affecting my lifestyle. I moved to another city to avoid relatives and friends because i don't want to answer their questions about my failed marriage and i dread going back to see my family as the pending divorce has saddeded them as well. For this reason, i am hesitant to sign the papers as i don't see separation as bad as divorce. I know this is really silly as i have to face my fears, stop avoiding and accept the reality that my marriage is over and the sooner i do it, the better it is for me to move on. It has been almost 5 months i have been separated and till today i still can't openly admit my new status except to a few very close friends. Please advise....
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