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I am presently living with my stbx...very difficult. Was wondering how others are doing with this. My stbx has his cellphone with him all the time, and tm's his girlfriend no matter where I am. The only thing I have asked of him is to respect me, don't put his GF in my face. My plan is to leave asap, but we still have one son in his last year of HS and HATE the thought of leaving him (one daughter usually stays at BF's, and the other away at college). My stbx and I hardly talk, we do share the cooking, I've stopped doing his laundry and making his lunch and calling him...The tension is sky high...I just don't know what to do. And the holidays are coming...I just don't know what to do...Any suggestions? I need help, I need answers. Thanks!
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There is no OW/OM, but the tension is still there.
Sorry, no answers or suggestions as at this point I dont even know I'm still coping! Good luck and if your ever need an ear to bend come find me.
Living with the STBX is Hell. I think that I see stretch marks on my eyes from the swelling from crying.
I have only had to last since the first of August. I can't imagine the length of time you are looking at. I had just started to turn loose of hope.
Is there Any Way that you could get an apartment or rent a house that is close?
Could you keep the house and make Him move?
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry. That is a long time.
He tried to drive me crazy.. and force me to leave the house.... drove me and the children nuts.
I remember clearly Xmas 2005 my youngest daughter saying out loud.. I want to kill myself.. a 5 year old..saying that out loud.
She kept asking when was he going to leave..
last year this time we were almost homeless... the kids ate at my folks.. I stayed in the house 24/7.. holding my ground. He was terrorizing us.
I paid him well.. gave him half.. paid off all his debts.. declined spousal..gave him my half of his pension... and the bastard didn't leave until after the divorce.
can't give you advice.. stay strong.. we lived in the same house like strangers.. only talked about the kids issues.
At the end when he would hell about terms.. and selling .. etc. I would shout back.. talk to my lawyer!.. I will not talk to you about this. Talk to my lawyer.. he knew then I was unable to stand up for myself but I was clear enough to get an advocate to do it. A Shark.
If that isn't a possibility make your bedroom your haven and stay in there. Make sure you have tv, books, phone, candles, music whatever and escape.
Your kids probably feel the tension between you, maybe the less time together the better for them too.
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Would NOT recommend if can be avoided. Me, if I left house, I'd have got screwed royally by judge, and custody and friend of the court with two small ones. I have house, divorce final month ago, she still comes and goes, my atty. finally told me I could change locks last night, but honestly, I know that'd cause more stress on the kids. She moves permanently to her own place in Jan. I hope I can sustain till then, but she's not stayin here, which is ok by me. she'd also flaunt her cell phone in my face, whcich I had my atty. subpoena text and usage in case needed to say she'd neglected the kids at times when texting/calling instead of parenting. it worked so well for me in every aspect but getting her permanently out of the house. minus her bf's house, she has no place for kids to stay over night but my house... (her excuse anyway.)
May God give you the strength to hold on for your son's sake. maybe your stbx will get fed up soon and move in with OW?