I read something that says I have to turn the whole ugly mess over to God because his wrath is so much worse than mine. I have to let go of what they did and God will take care of it for me. I am not sure what God will do and honestly I may never see it but guess what that is Ok because someday they will pay.

About the happy thing are they really happy? How can someone be happy when they have broken up a family. They may seem happy in the beginning but someday it will catch up with them. Someday they will realize what they gave up and what they did. I also think how can they have a real relationship filled with love and trust when the relationship they have started out the way it did. I know I could never fully trust someone who would leave his wife and 3 little kids. Also what kind of person is she that would want someone who would leave his wife and 3 little kids.

I have turned my whole ugly situation over to God because it is to much for me to understand. I have to have faith that he will take care of the whole thing for me

sbm01002 that was beautifully said. I second that!

I second sbm. Couldn't of said it better myself.

I totally agree with SBM.

I used to think about stbx and OW all the time but I don't anymore in that way. I don't care if they are happy or not - 'cause it's none of my business.

Yes they are living in sin but I have to deal with my own sin and don't have time to worry about theirs. They will have to answer for what they have done one day and I rest in the fact that they will but so will I.

When I stand in front of God one day He is not going to ask me about anyone else and so I humbly let Him take care of that situation :)

No, it is not happiness. Adults cannot find happiness when they ransom young children for it. It is something else, and they will never find happiness having done this.

My x left for a married woman, she divorced her husband for him. They thought they were "soulmates". He cheated on her multiple times. He is now with the winner of all women..he cheats on her too. Are they happy? Hell no!!! He is still looking for something he will never find. He wanted someone dumber than him, he found it. He wanted someone who would look up to him, he found it. He "found " what he was looking for and he continues to look. I suspect that your x will live the same pathetic life.

My husband and I fell in love gradually from a friendship to more, it wasn't complicated, we were young and fairly :) innocent. We developed a nice relationship, experienced things for the first time together and had a quiet, happy life together. Then she came along, and the emails began and then they began meeting and so on and so forth, you know the rest. So I always say that how my relationship with my husband developed out of innocence, her relationship with my husband developed out of lies, lies to her husband, lies to me, leaving her kids of 3 and 5 to be with him. Maybe they will have happy times together, but what will they tell people how they met, what will they say when the children get older and ask why mom isn't with dad. Our marriage is over because of their sins and you are right sbm God will take over. Maybe he will sooner than judgement day. I do believe in Karma and though I hate to wish "bad" on anyone, I often pray that they see what their actions have done. To hurt 4 families, my family, his family, ow's family, and her husband's family. This isn't love, this is lust, I don't believe that you can build a solid foundation on lies. I am so glad that I don't have to carry around these burdens.

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I agree with everyone, the same thing happen to me. I use to put too much energy as to why my ex had done this and how he could move in with the ow and be their for her kids and not his own. I turned it around and left on gods hands. She now has a baby from him and his is so angry at himself because not only does he have to pay child support for mine but also for hers. Things did not turn out the way they wanted too. I don't know if they are still together but who cares, I'm moving on with my life. You can say she did me a favor!!!!

Frankly I can't be bothered to worry about his happiness or lack of. It's simply a "non issue" in my life!

My ex is now living 40 minutes away with her boyfriend. Why do I care? My girls go to school here - I live across the street from their schools - and they live with her every other week. She is living with the same man that she divorced me for, refused to pick up the girls countless times, forced the girls to live with on weekends in his living room while she slept in his bed - fun explaining that one to them - and allows him to "run the show" telling me how much he loves the girls, how much he cant wait to raise them and how things are now going to change - do you think!? She had to move in with him because she was evicted from her apartment and is now court ordered to pay the landlord $2,700. The same judge that heard the eviction case was the same judge that called me a liar at trial and said I couldn't support my girls. I guess I wasn't lying was I! She cant possibly be happy since she is impossible to reach when I have the girls - when they call her - and then just like this morning calls to "remind" me I am still their father even though it is not my week - NO SHIT! If she truly is happy I hope to God I don't have to deal with her when she is sad!!! :)

Marriage must be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept undelfiled, because God will judge immoral people and adulterers.