Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am so shellshocked from trying for 9 years to make a marriage work by pushing his behavior under the rug. By making excuses for the way he treated me, his kids. Hanging on b/c of the good times (few and far between) when the bad times greatly exceeded those.
So now I have this profound sense of loneliness. I did not want to grow old alone. I did not make this choice. Yet when I look back on our time together, I was ALREADY alone. There was no real companionship- just me walking on eggshells, trying not to make him angry (an impossible task). Sex life was slim to nil. He had no interests, and berated me for having hobbies and supporting my kids' activities, in the name of me being a self-centered person. Huh? In a recent diatribe with him I told him that he had only apologized to me for his behavior twice in 9 years. He laughed and said, 'well at least there were two!'
Wanting to believe that there are some good guys out there- certainly too early to test the waters. But I just don't trust my judgement any more. Is it possible to find companionship and mutual respect/appreciation with someone without looking like I am looking for a piece of ass? I don't even know if I have a heart left to give anyone.
Does anyone else feel this way?
So now I have this profound sense of loneliness. I did not want to grow old alone. I did not make this choice. Yet when I look back on our time together, I was ALREADY alone. There was no real companionship- just me walking on eggshells, trying not to make him angry (an impossible task). Sex life was slim to nil. He had no interests, and berated me for having hobbies and supporting my kids' activities, in the name of me being a self-centered person. Huh? In a recent diatribe with him I told him that he had only apologized to me for his behavior twice in 9 years. He laughed and said, 'well at least there were two!'
Wanting to believe that there are some good guys out there- certainly too early to test the waters. But I just don't trust my judgement any more. Is it possible to find companionship and mutual respect/appreciation with someone without looking like I am looking for a piece of ass? I don't even know if I have a heart left to give anyone.
Does anyone else feel this way?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Since not all dogs bite, I have decided to love again but it is up to me to know that good, decent people are out there, and up to me to practice my listening skills to HEAR that which is not said, to SEE that which is hidden, before I should give my heart again.
Yes I feel the same way. I joined a volleyball league and met alot of new people without trying get get any POA. It is so much fun to go out without worrying what someone else thinks.
Hugs to ya. Have some fun.
Does this help?
having said all that pompous stuff (although I find most of it useful) I could not reveal what my stbx was up to because I was blind and deaf, because I preferred blindness and deafness to the painful reality that I wished to avoid.
your post is very moving. these are issues i have been struggling with and i don't like how thinking about these things makes me feel at the moment. i know i do have a heart to give, but i also need to stay very strong for my child. she is very little and this divorce is very hard on her.