Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Finally hit my rock bottom last sunday, 6 months after my marriage collapsed. got up and got ready for work on monday but got to the front door and realised i couldn't face the music. have been off for a week now and spent the first 2 days under the duvet wailing like a cow in labour.. depression has finally caught up with me and has me in its clutches. still cant face going back tomorrow. just had a colleague on the phone telling me everything is cool and theres no rush. dont feel ready to go back but i am scared to stay at home too long in case i just retreat into myself more and just become more depressed. i dont know what to do for the best. anyone in this position or been here before and could advise?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Do you have health insurance? If so, please find yourself a good therapist who can help you through these very rough times. You may consider an anti-depressant as well.
You will get through this. You are mourning right now and your feelings are normal.
teadrinker1929, aka Alexandria 57 &58
Emotionally I am a basket case, I am anxious, feel like I'm on a hamster wheel, peddling going no where fast. I have good days and bad days, this weekend has been hard - but I think a lot of that is realizing that no matter what I am willing to do to try and save my marriag, he doesn't want to so I have to let go. Can't sugar coat it 21 years done, all I can say is it hurts. I guess I keep trying to go on because if I stop I may not get back up again and that scares the shit out of me.
My boss and co-workers have been great; on the really bad days they'd talk me through it, and it finally did get better.
Is there anyone you work with who you could talk to? It helps to feel like there's someone there who knows what you're going through.
I try and give myself a personal day off once or twice a month. I save them for the really bad days that I need it and try to enjoy them. I prefer to do this so I am not crying at work and they are pretty understanding.
I also learned to take walk at lunch and talk to friend. I also play card games sometimes. Feels good to bet someone in a game while I am thinking of my x. I get my revenge in a healthy way and have a good laugh with friend.