No---Valentines Day-perfect huh!!

one day you will look back on it and say it was the best christmas present he ever gave you

My hubby should be getting his papers today. I don't know how long the final papers normally take. I hope it's after the holidays.

my husband was w/ another woman on my birthday and then some. Thank God for some presents, they are a gift from above. He is trying to hurt you again. Don't let him. He is only hurting himself. the saying goes, Leave s*** alone, it will take care of itself. After he pulled that crap, he came back and cried really hard. Yea, i let him back in, thinking i can't live w/o him, THEN he pulled the same thing again and again, thinking i won't find out. My friends told me what he was doing. Then he assaulted me when i told him to leave, now he is incarcerated for over 2 yrs. If i go back again, this time he will blame me for being in there. I was a victim. Somehow you are going thru emotional abuse, don't let him ruin your holidays....enjoy it more than ever, treat yourself...enjoy.

The last time my x saw his OW alive was on our 13th wedding anniversary...

dont hate christmas, hate the divorce. hate the papers coming. hate the ex, don't hate christmas, remember what christmas is all about.

Christmas is bad enough being alone, no one needs that crap. We'll be filing for July to finalize the big D.
And misty- not on my birthday please.02/14

We could probably finalize around Christmas. In PA you have a 90 day period between the time you file and the time you finalize. You 90 days will be up about December 12th. However we decided to wait until after the new year to take the steps to finalize.

Pony.. that is one more Tax year as your dependant ... you might want to rethink things.

anyhow.. I thought it was over.. filed.. and was just another formality.. then I got the papers in the mail.. read it a few times that day.. folded it up.. put it in the envelope..went back to it over and over.. in 30 days of the date on the top it would be all over.

I felt numb. Like wow.. 26.5 years.. done. Very numbing experience.

Don't let the paperwork get in the way of the holiday.. do not mark it in your memories that way. It is not a time to celebrate nor an anniversary date. It is a legal thing.. just file it away.. do not connect it with any one event or holiday or celebration. It will forever hold you back if you do.

January 9th for me.