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anyone else feel this way?

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Today,my stbx has called several times, being very very nice - then I found out he went out last night - stayed out all night, we aren't divorced yet, even though I have filed.
I should be happy right? He can get on with his life and I need to get on with mine, although I didn't plan on it until after the divorce was final - just not ready yet. But now I want to go out so bad =( I don't want to be so alone - I want adult companionship - by the way Thanks for everyone on here!
I don't even know what I am trying to say - I'm confused I guess - I don't want these feelings - but I guess after finding out for sure there is someone else, I kinda feel like I don't want this, but then I do - guess I just need to find me a man to keep me company....lol.
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What you are feeling is so okay...I know it sounds like a cliche but you are gonna be alright.
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Be careful and stay strong. I think that you are at a very vulnerable spot and you don't want to do anything that you will regret. You can and should pull through this on your own and with the help of friends. Once you can stand on your own, then I think you are ready for someone else.

Just my 2 cents.
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Thank you, I thought I was doing pretty good until now - its like forward 2 steps, back 5. Just wish I weren't here tonight! Thank God for DS!
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Time does help. And I agree with your morals, not until you are divorced. Hang in there, lots of us out here tonight it seems.
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Grab a good book, those usually help me out. I'll read until I can't keep my eyes open and before you know it, you've made it through this valley.
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I have had the same feelings. I haven't had a "lfe" of my own in 12 years. My husband's life was MY life. Sad, but true. I'm going to get my life one day..lol.

Like someone above said..Be Careful.
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yea, the sad part is, he was my life. I gave up lots of friends because he didn't like doing anything other than staying home, going to movies and nothing else. So now I need to make new friends, some I can go out with and not have to sit here at home!!!!
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I do too! I was thinking the exact same thing. I have no clue where to go lookin for friends either. Gosh, I am sad. lol.
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Funny, my stbx did the same thing last night, came in at 5:30 this morning. I never wanted any of this, I tearfully reminded him we are still married until April and if he was going to screw around to please have the decency to move out of our home and quit rubbing it in my face. I know how you feel the urge to get even. I've been lonely in this marriage a long time and my sex drive has been much stronger than his the last 10 years, if I was still in my 20's I might do something stupid, but at the ripe old age of 50 I'll hold off, wait till I'm legally single and be very selective about hte lucky guy who's going to get this revirginzed lonely woman! I'll tell you what, as important as the physical needs are if it's anything more than sex I am looking for a man who can hold up his end of a conversation the pretty boy I've been married to all of these years is about as deep as a mud puddle!
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Christy, too bad we don't live closer - we could just be sad together! Then we could go out and party!
Sandy, you are right - need to keep it together until everything is final. gotta suck it up!
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1step, I wish you as well as many others from here lived in my neck of the woods. That would be a heck of a party. LOL. Not many people do life in this area, so I am used to it.
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It's part of the roller coaster of emotions we go through, I know. We want them, we don't want them, on and on. It will get better, I'm keeping that hope in my heart! Hug~~~~
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I understand how you feel. I have been alone for more than a year now, and adult companionship with a women would be great right now. Hang in there.
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