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I feel like I am loosing my mind, spent the better part of tonight crying while reading posts here on DS. I am in so much pain and I do not want to deal with it anymore, I can't let go of the guilt, I want my friend, my wife, my lover back, but I know in my heart that it will not happen.
Thoughts of suicide have sprung up again, but this time it seems much more serious. I want her to feel the pain I am going through, but many of you have said that the ex doesn't feel that much pain and usually moves on with their lives.
I do not want to become a distant memory.
Anyone been down this lonely road? Have you pulled yourself out of this dispair?
Thoughts of suicide have sprung up again, but this time it seems much more serious. I want her to feel the pain I am going through, but many of you have said that the ex doesn't feel that much pain and usually moves on with their lives.
I do not want to become a distant memory.
Anyone been down this lonely road? Have you pulled yourself out of this dispair?
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Please know that while I am the one who initiated the divorce, my husband is the one who made that choice for me by what he did. I have felt dispair, I have felt lonliness, and I know what it is like to look in the mirror and wonder what was wrong with me that things could have gone this way. More importantly, I am here to tell you that it DOES get better, it DOES feel less lonely, and the dispair DOES dissipate after time. It has been a little over 11 months since the begining of my ordeal, and it IS better.
Hugs to you.
The pain of discipline
and the
pain of regret
It is difficult to see past the pain of regret--I know as I am on that road right now. I just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other--removing myself from this world would only hurt people that I do love and that love me. I cannot do that to them.
Some days the reasons are small...tiny...almost microscopic..and some days they are HUGE!
I'm a city girl....a real city girl..born in NYC...lived many years in Chicago area (now transplanted to the Front Range of the Rocky's)..this week alone...I was able to see t he "butt end" of a bear...loping off on a mountain road...AND OMG a Bald Eagle!...yup sounds silly! Take the moments you are given and give great thanks for them!
I chose LIFE, there are down moments, remember this.
LIFE IS NOT MEASURED BY THE NUMBER OF BREATHS WE TAKE...BUT BY THE MOMENTS THAT TAKE OUR BREATH AWAY!
And stick around on this board. A LOT. Seriously, this board was a lifeline for me. Good people here, very, very good people.
I see you lost a brother as well. You are in deep grief. The pain feels like it is burning you alive. But it will get better.
Get medicine, do whatever you have to do to get you over the hump. You will pass through the fire.
To me; thoughts of suicide are actual plans on how you are to kill yourself.
I had many, many times, moments, minutes and days that I didn't want to go on. Didn't care if a semi hit me head on. But I never planned on driving into one.
I can't say that I, as in myself, pulled myself out of this phase of my depression, but I had a whole lot of support around me that did help.
Shall I count them all, because the list would go on. DS is the first place I'd start.
You are right where you should be. First and foremost.
EVERYONE here has felt this and has been where you are at right now....
What I did for myself was opened up and shared. I allowed myself to stay open for the advice that was given to me. I, even if it was blindly, listened and believed. I took it one second, or minute at a time.
This too shall pass. Believe in that. Say it over and over and over if you must.
I am not where I want to be yet, but I have come a long way from where you are right now, and that alone IS A FREAKING MIRACLE. If I was entitled to a miracle, you certainly are to.
Stay strong my friend, a day, an hour, a minute or a second at a time. Whatever it takes.
Wishing you love & strength....
Love and Hugs,
Lisa
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