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It must be the way I post - I hardly get any replies to my posts - so, I apologize for the re-post:
Today I found out the results of the army case review committee findings regarding my stbx abusive husband. They found him guilty of domestic violence and emotional abuse by a vote of 6 to 1. What this means is that he will have this finding on his military records for the next 40 years. He will be required to take any and all counseling our case manager deems necessary and it may or may not affect his ability to get security clearance jobs in the future depending on the type of work. The better news is that now the army will probably pay for my moving costs to get away from him and future counseling costs - yay!
The bad part is that now he will be even angrier and even more vengeful - as if being violent, locking me out of the house, filing for divorce, abusing porn, placing a personal ad while we were married and emptying all of the accounts weren't good enough....
I am so hurt, so enraged, so scared, so devastated. I would appreciate any suggestions on coping - I'm near a breakdown and my kids are feeling the brunt of all of this. My 14 year old had a panic attack this weekend and called me hysterical to come get her because she couldn't breathe and she thought she was going to throw up.... :-(
Today I found out the results of the army case review committee findings regarding my stbx abusive husband. They found him guilty of domestic violence and emotional abuse by a vote of 6 to 1. What this means is that he will have this finding on his military records for the next 40 years. He will be required to take any and all counseling our case manager deems necessary and it may or may not affect his ability to get security clearance jobs in the future depending on the type of work. The better news is that now the army will probably pay for my moving costs to get away from him and future counseling costs - yay!
The bad part is that now he will be even angrier and even more vengeful - as if being violent, locking me out of the house, filing for divorce, abusing porn, placing a personal ad while we were married and emptying all of the accounts weren't good enough....
I am so hurt, so enraged, so scared, so devastated. I would appreciate any suggestions on coping - I'm near a breakdown and my kids are feeling the brunt of all of this. My 14 year old had a panic attack this weekend and called me hysterical to come get her because she couldn't breathe and she thought she was going to throw up.... :-(
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i, too, also hope that that you get a lot of responses to your post.
Sorry for what your going through,, your going to have to take it day by day for a while.
is there support groups where you are?
They sometimes offer free counseling for you and your children regarding domestic violence. If you have a protective order keep it near you at all times and get the hell out of there as soon as you can.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I am glad you won this first battle,, the other victories are soon to follow!
As far as his harrasing you, I don' thin he will, cause it is my understanding that since this finding he will be facing time in the brig if there are any other complaints, am I right! He is not that stupid, surely!
Bless you my friend and please contact me if you need me!
Hugs!
i understand your hurt, anger, and fear. Keep the faith and know that this nightmare will be over with. It WILL come to an end! Take good care of the kids and keep loving them the way you do. heres to hoping you can get out there asap
Yell if you need anything!
I would talk to the military court there and tell them your fears as well as talk to an abuse shelter to get help in getting out of there safely.
Give your girl a big hug and tell her it's going to be ok. I hope you find the help and strength you need to get through this and safely. Above all else do what you have to in order to get you and the kids to a place of safety and then you will feel that you can breath and continue to heal.
((((HUGS))))