Surely there are success stories, but you will most likely not find them here, this is a Breakup and Divorce Forum.

As long as both parties are willing to give it their all, I believe reconciliation is always the best route to go. Life happens unfortunately and circumstances change, people change and relationships are not guaranteed. Life is all about risk.

If that is what you are seeking, do everyining you can to make it work, then you can have that peace in your heart knowing you gave it everything you could if things ends.

my husband left, and swears its not me. I know that should he return I have a choice to return to the marriage or choose not to. For now my comfort is with those that can identify with separation... which could in fact end in divorce. I was just wondering if there was any endings of reconciliation.....

I have seen many stories of reconciliations gone bad. If the work is not done, the same patterns will be repeated and the marraige is destined to fail.

Good luck.

My Stbx had me leave because he couldn't handle my health problems and decided that I had made him depressed. Turned out he was also seeing someone which he knew wouldn't work. When I reached the point that I could give him the divorce he wanted he told me he'd made a mistake and wanted us to work things out. I don't know where this will go and am still continuing with the divorce because it turns out that apart my health is alot better and i realised that he'd been treating me awful for years so he has a lot of work to do on himself before I think of going back. That said we are seeing each other when he picks up the dog and went to a garden center as friends. So we will have to see there won't be a quick fix and things will have to be different. But it's possible.

The distance between my wife and I grows and the tension builds. She is not interested in the work to reconcile but wants me to wait around so our kids won't be affected. Things are so bad now that they will be better off if we split, with equal visitation if I have my way.

My therapist says that reconciliation is not always the best answer even if the one that walked out comes back.

My husband and I are currently trying to reconcile. It has only been about a month. It hasn't been easy or bad. But time will tell if things will truly change and if he is willing to accept the change in me. So far he has accepted my changes. Just in the last week a couple of old behaviors has come up, so I am not so sure. How I handled it has definately changed, although I was firm in where I stood. What he plans on doing we will see, how he handled my change in addressing the problem and my position was pretty good so far.

wish i could say mine was....unfortunately he wanted nothing to do with that (too much work i guess)...got served today :( if you do try to work things out, just keep your eyes open and don't compromise yourself just to get him back. best of luck to you.

my stbx reconciled officially once, the two other times we seperated then got back together it was because we missed the family unit and the kids. he said the second time he came back was to see if we could work it out....but really came back for the kids. the third time was when i left, i missed him and really missed the kids. we still can't make it work. i wish we could, but he's done. he says i did everything i could to make it work...one cannot make a marriage work...NO way, NO how!

I am willing to work on saving the marriage. The wife has plans for her Nigerian boytoy to come to the States still..(He won't and can't) but she still after a year has not filed the divorce papers..It takes two to save a marriage other wise you are pushing a boulder up Mt. Everest by yourself.

I'm on the work it out boat right now. Don't really know if its going to work out or not. Most the time it scares the crap out of me to think about it not working out, but the only confidence that it gives is that were both trying and if its not ment to be then we'll both know why. That might be scary too.

i held on to the hope my husband and i were gonna fix things. he always wants to but it seems like once things are broken its really hard to put them back together again. i wish you the best of luck.{im sure il always hold the hope}