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Any book recommendations for letting go?

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I know, I know ..... time helps. But I often have a hard time keeping things in perspective and I bounce back to denial and want to pretend this whole thing isn't even happening. I often avoid dealing with the reality of the situation .... .that rather than looking at this as my husband not wanting to be with me anymore .... that maybe this is a way of setting myself free from the lies and deceit, the broken promises, infidelity, and disrespect he's shown to me and our marriage.

So I'm wondering if anyone has come across any good reads that have helped them with the process of acceptance and letting go.
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If you go under the recommendations tab it will have all kind of books. I am reading one now that is titled spritual divorce. I really like it.
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I read one that helped alot. Actually would like to read it again but a little concerned of memories of how bad I was when I read it the first time.
Venus & Mars: A guide to starting over
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I know a couple of people around here have been suggesting a specific book. Hopefully they will get the chance to share that with you. I personally have been in search of self help books. Everyday life teaches me that I am alone and I just have to get use to it and appreciate it. The one book I did read and it helped e a lot was "yesterday I cried" by Iyalla Vanzant. I still refer to it from time to time. I use to live my life that way, not really acknowledging anything being wrong or that it didn't happen. I use to say "if I don't think about it then it didn't happen". This is how I was raised. Until I was diagnosed with depression. Because although I wasn't acknowledging the drama and trauma in my life. My doctor said it was like paouring water into a glass eventually it will spill over. In order to get ahold of depression I had to make myself a promise to deal with everytyhing no matter what. If I have a hang-nail I deal with it. The trick is to deal things as they are instead of with my heart. Don't sit back and pretend you're not hurting. You're only fooling yourself.
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Jac, I love Iyanla's books!
A book I've been meaning to look at again is the grief recover handbook. It helped alot when my grandma died. It's not just for grief from death but the loss of a relationship.
I did order a bunch of books from Amazon. I'll let you know how they work.
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I read a book a few years ago for my psych class called "The Language of Letting Go...

Cannot for the life of me remember the author's name...google it....
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A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

Pia Melody's book "Facing Love Addiction."
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THEY CALL IT BREAK UP BECAUSE ITS BROKEN
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The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
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And yes, Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth"...splendid writing.
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I second msde's recommendation 100%...
It was/is very helpful... I love humor also & the authors mix the seriousness of divorce & letting go with a side order of humor...
A must read...
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One called 'Uncoupling' I found very beneficial.
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One called 'Uncoupling' I found very beneficial.
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