
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
But I think it really depends on the people involved, and also WHY he left in the first place. Is there another woman involved?
In my case, I am 99.999999% sure that he will NEVER have a change of heart. And the longer I'm away from him, the more I realize how bad our relationship really was.
Either way, I think that leaving him alone and not begging and pleading is the right thing to do. I think begging and pleading would only tend to push him further away.
I hope things turn out the way you want, but I'd also advise you to start building a life for YOU. If he comes back, great, that would be icing on the cake. But if he doesn't, then you'll be stronger and able to live on your own.
After 3 months have gone by, see him, talk to him and after that go home and ponder "Was he as wonderful as you built him up to be?" "Do you miss him or miss having a man around?" "Do you really love him". You may still be head over heals but in my past experience with a serious bf of 2yrs, I found after 3 months all I could think was "What was I thinking??!!"
You need to focus on you and ask yourself the HARD questions about your marriage after you see him in 3 months.
Just saying this may give you perspective. Hope this helped!
There are books out there about saving the marriage if you are interested. I have no idea how effective they might be, but something to look at.