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Husband left 7 weks ago and it's our anniversary tomorrow. Didn't think it would hit me this hard but I'm finding it hard to cope with the fact that we won't be celebrating.
Should I just go to work and try and pretend it's any other day or should I take the day off? And if I take the day off should I use it to clean out traces of him in the house or spend it pampering myself?
Should I just go to work and try and pretend it's any other day or should I take the day off? And if I take the day off should I use it to clean out traces of him in the house or spend it pampering myself?

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pamper yourself. You don't want to be upset at work. Clean out tracs f him o your next day off.

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I'd get rid of his stuff today - then start with a clean slate tomorrow being nice to yourself! Eating stuff you like and he didn't - getting a manicure or a hair cut. Ditch work and see a good movie - or go for a walk. This is your new beginning!

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I, personally, worked on my anniversary....my coworkers were very supportive, was better than staying home alone and remembering what was.

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I really do know exactly how you feel! Look at it this way...per my sisters advice..this is only ONE day out of 365! The other 364 will be easier!

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If you can handle work - go to work and pretend. You could probably use the cash or the day off some other time. If you don't think that you will be able to handle it, take the day off and pamper yourself. If I were you, I would stay away from any old memories. They are sure to bring you down.

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I worked on my anniversary. I was so busy it seemed to go by quickly, for me dates haven't been that important, but it affects everyone differently.

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I was in Florida on my Anniversary. I stayed with a friend and her family. I am happy that the divorce is going forward. I will not spend one day upset over someone who didn't respect me or the marriage. I am living on my own now. I have a sense of peace. No I don't know what the future holds, but I know that I am alright with just me. You can't depend on someone else providing you happiness. I focus on the positive things that happened during my marriage, not the negative. There is a better plan out there for me and you. Stay strong and independent.

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If you can handle going to work go...it will take your mind off the fact that it is your anniversary. I just had my 16th anniversary by myself...I went to work. The day of the anniversary wasn't the saddest day I have faced yet. I have had sadder court dates. I should be divorced in a couple of weeks if everything goes okay. It is a horrible process. I find myself crying a lot. I hope it gets better for all of us here.

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I went to work on my anniversary and treated it like any other day. It seemed to make it easier as the day has little meaning to me anymore.

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Thats about the time frame it was for me - I went to work, yes, I thought about it but I kept busy and then went out with friends afterward.

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Every celebration and ritual you had together will be tough the first year. I am just coming out of my first year of separation and divorce. It is sad but you process the feelings by talking to friends, family, and a therapist. Talk about it until you get all the support you need. That's what helped me. It will get better as time goes by.
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