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Anniversary Hell - talk me down!

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For the past three days I've been in so much pain I can hardly stand it. I guess our anniversary hit me WAY harder then I anticipated!!! This is BAD, I want to call and beg him to come give me a hug or move home (with me). ....It get's better, right? Somebody tell me it will get better, that anniversaries are especially hell but you do go back to normal grief after a bit? I feel so WEAK right now...
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I am so sorry. I keep thinking it will get better, and for the most part it has. But there is still that deep pain of loss. Of losing something I will never get back, but I wonder if what I had was real anyway. You will get past this. I think it is like someone dieing, the anniversary of the death is still hard.
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Anniversaries are the hardest, and you will feel the worst. Had my three yr 3 weeks after he left. It was terrible. this too shall pass.
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It does get better, not sure if the loss ever fully goes away though.
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Today would be my 16th wedding anniversary. I thought it would hit me harder than it has so far. I guess its because I know she has moved on and we are on decentr terms with it all.
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(((Hugs))) I am so sorry. We each have our Hardest Point. Hopefully this is yours and nothing will ever be This hard, again.
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it does get better. you get to the normal that you create within your new life. the pain gets better, and the sadness gets better, and each day gets a little easier. hang in there. keep coming here to be with us.
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Today you need to take time and love you. Give yourself a hug and make a cup of tea, pour yourself a bubble bath and put on some nice lipstick, it may cheer you up.

If you have a chance get a stupid magazine or rent a movie and make a day out of spoiling you... NO one is going to do it but you, for now that will all change when this chapter is closed.

Go GIRL iT is Your DAY...
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I've been there before. Just hang in there and don't get in touch with him. It will get better soon.
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For the years it continues to bother you, why not start a new tradition that is gratifying to yourself?
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I like CVGL's suggestion.

I didn't do one this year because I could not think of anything but my friends said I should start a tradition for myself.

Maybe that will help ease some of your pain to think about what you want instead of the anniversary.
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It will get better! Just think of something else, do someting nice for yourself. each event will bring up feelings, but as time passes those feelings will start to deminish! They will be there for a long time but you will feel better as you get pass each one.
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We split on our anniversary-Last year nealy killed me but I feel okay this year-It gets better-I am sorry you are going through so much pain.You will survive this.
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Thanks to you all for posting your suggestions and encouragement!!! You help when I feel like I'm drowning in"it" (should have put SH before "it", huh?) Thank you for having faith on the nights that I don't!!!
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