Karma came sooner than expected! I am still friends with my X. He called me last night. He sounded a little angry & depressed. He seemed down a few times before but I dismissed it. I asked what was the matter, are you mad at me? He said "No, I'm mad at myself." I asked what for? There was a long pause. I then asked "Are you regreting your decision?" (divorcing me for the OW) He said "I don't know what I'm doing anymore." I asked "Where is she right now?" He said "She's working late, she'll be home at 10pm." I said "Really? I thought she had normal daytime work hours because she's a social worker?" (that's what he claims) He said "Sometimes she has to work late." She's also has her "nights out" with friends. Meanwhile he has told me she doesn't like when "he" goes out! He usually has her cell with him so she can keep in touch with him when he does. He said "Who knows what she's doing?" & "I don't care." & "I made my bed so I have to lie in it!" Sounds like the "thrill of the chase" is already over for her. She probably thinks his wife won't take him back & he has no place to go. She's probably paying him back for the times he left her alone at nights, probably while he was still with me. Who knows? God knows he's done it to me enough times. Now it's his turn to wonder. He still says he loves,misses,& cares about me. He still gives me a kiss hello & hugs me. As I said. We're still friends. I used to wish the worst on them (especially her), but I have gotten past most of the anger, hurt, etc. I don't wish to see him in the street. I have forgiven his being human, but I will never forget. I told him I'll always be here for him as a friend. Maybe it'll work out for them but as I have told him before, living with someone on a daily basis is very different than just fooling around with them. Any thoughts? I'd be interested on your takes on this!
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