Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
wish I did not feel so guilty about leaving... why do I feel guilty? Because I stayed in hopes I could forgive and forget? I should have left in Feb when the shit hit the fan... but I stayed till August and then kept things alive long distance... it's not my fault he tried to buy me with diamonds and other gifts ... the betrayal doesn't go away. I don't look at him the same way, I don't trust him and I am not attracted to him because I don't know what he does when my back is turned. He did this to his last wife of 14 years and then blames her to me.... I spoke with her and I knw the truth is somewhere in the middle.... the Ed doesn't help I am 35 years old.... in the 4 years together we never has intercourse... isn't that strange? Odd? dysfunctional... yet he says no ED problem????????? So what it's me? No I played that game for 2 of those years thinking it was all my fault, not hot enough whatever... not true. That is indirect mental abuse in my book right?
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Yes it is emotional abuse- my husband who wanted sex on his death bed in ICU 10 years ago after his appendix burst... has turned me down repeatdly in the last two years- and he's 10 years younger than me!! And I'm thinner than I was 10 years when he wanted it all the time! He said if I ever got fat he'd trade me in. I never in 20 years refused him but he lost all interest- Just didn't love me anymore- had to be drunk to have sex with me-- pretty insulting, makes you feel like chopped liver...It's been so long since I've felt real love or even human touch and affection- I'm afraid I'll forget how!! Anyway it IS emotional abuse- hteir problem, not ours, we deserve to be loved and respected!
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thanks!
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There is a fantastic book by Patricia Evans, The Verbally Abusive Relationship. It was a real eye opener for me. Sandy is right. We deserve better, much better!
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There must of been someone on the side. No it was not you, never think that. But a person with a conscience always looks at themself first. I call it games.I was in two relationships and they both knew how to work my feelings and the funny thing how they can look at you straight face and make you feel like your the ugly one.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
