My H said I love you but I don't LOVE you anymore. What it that? A really lame excuse if you ask me! I think they are in their own way trying to spare our feelings by saying something that sounds good to them. But in reality they are hurting us more by not saying what it the truth, and giving us a soid thing to think on. Like if my husband said I have found someone else and I thnk I would be better off with her. THen I would understand, I would hate him for a while but I would have something soild to go on other than I love you but I don't LOVE you anymore crap!

I agree. I thinks it's great when they say " I love you but not in love with you", "I didn't want to hurt you", "Your to good for this"...Just a way for them to feel less guilty, less of a coward...

Freaking hate that! more than anything else. Agree.

the "I'm not in love with you anymore" chat sucks big time. "I don't love you like I should" "Like before" "you're better off without me"

hurts big time - 20+ years and I get this crap????

Yes and No. I still love my husband and he loves me. I gave reconsiling another try and it was dead at the door. I love him but the choice to go my own way is for ME. Sometimes love ain't enough. I WANT to be with my husband but it's not in my best interest.

I got"I love you-but it will be better this way-Better, no home, no car, no money. Better for him-ran free and clear to a new love and a new dream.If I love someone-I don't hurt them or choose my hopes and dreams over theres-we were supposed to build dreams together.LOVE- I don't think people like this are capable of it.

I agree with you! My stbx claims he cares for me. He loves me but yet he's not in love with me! BS. Totally!
I am angry when he says that! So I can understand fully.

I got "I Love you, but we will all be healthier"...I didn't understand that at first, but I do NOW. Two of our kids, and I, am MUCH Healthier. :-D

As far as Love, that is something that HE will Never know Anything about.

I got "I Love you, but we will all be healthier"...


I didn't hear that, but that happened! What she said at one point was "You always said if we got divorced it won't cost as much to live"

That's why I didn't mind paying so much more than legally liable. If I was paying 50-60% of my net, it WAS better than the 77-80% the last few years prior to the split. LOL

But now if She asked Me, it would be "Well, I do still Love you, but I'm no longer IN Love with you". Always wanted to use that one, I've heard it before.

At least mine was honest. He said "I don't know what love is any more. I will always love you as the mother of my kids.

I was the unlucky one and got the I am not in love with you anymore. These people don't know what love is and they should never be allowed to use it.

It does seem harsh. But I know why some people say this. I still love the stbx (DAMN!) but I can't live with him. Even if it weren't for the infedelity, there is the fact that deep down he has no morals or ethics. I can't live with that. Perhaps she sees that there are irreconcilable differences that will always be part of your relationship.

I got the "I love you, but I am not in love with you" line also. She also threw in a few more like "I am not rejecting you, I am rejecting the marriage.", I love my brother too, but not like a husband.", and "You will thank me for this someday.". I think she was dropping lines to see which one sounded better.

You know, I got all of the above and it just hurts so much.

Very convoluted and evasive.......can't be true love like that. It is supposed to be unconditional.